If a person obtains all that he desires and nothing causing him sadness befalls him, he will constantly be happy. His face will shine, he will be physically healthy, and he will age slowly.
How can we reach this utopian state? First, refrain from desiring what is beyond your reach. The simpler your desires, the greater the chance you will be able to meet their requirements. Anything extra you obtain beyond these demands will give you increased happiness, so you have nothing to lose and much to gain by lowering your demands and expectations. This does not rule out striving for realistic goals, only that you give up your DEMANDS for things that you may not be able to obtain.
Secondly, do not allow common day-to-day occurrences to cause you sadness. (e.g. traffic, burnt toast, etc.) Master a perspective of life that will enable you to at least accept minor hardships without becoming sad.
Love Yehuda Lave
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Your respect for other people comes from your deep awareness that they are created in the Almighty's image. Therefore you never treat anyone else condescendingly. You never belittle anyone. You realize that everyone has something you can learn from. You realize that you need to respect everyone you encounter. This way of interacting with others is an expression of humility.
Love Yehuda Lave
As part of my respect for other people, I need your helpto help spread my blog.
I saw a friend at the Hovitz Chaim Deli on Tuesday and he loves my blog. I hope you feel the same way. I do it as a labor of love but I want to spread it to a wider audience. It would be a great favor to me if I could send my blog to your contact list. Obviously not everyone will want to be a regular member, but all they have to do is unsubscribe or sign up for once a week. I don't charge and I don't put on any commercial advertisements, all I ask is to let you spread my message of how to walk in G-d's way and be a better person to your contacts. If you have 10 or 50 or 100 people you email to, my list will grow substantially. I will do it all. Just write to me and tell me you are willing and I will give you a letter to send to your contacts to introduce me. You will be doing a great Mitzvah.
Last Sunday, we observed the Fast of the 17th of Tammuz which ushers in the Three Week of semi-mourning culminating in the fast of Tisha B'Av.
It might therefore be beneficial to delve deeper into the purpose of fasting in order to cultivate an appropriate state of mind as we enter this sad period. To that end, I share with you an insight from my colleague, R. Yehonasan Gefen with my laced-in comments.
The Ben Ish Chai, zt"l, writes that there are two main purposes of fasting. The first reason is fairly apparent. Fasting diverts a person from physical indulgences so that he can focus on more spiritual matters. That is, as the Rambam states (Hilchos Ta'aniyos 5:1), fasting ought to induce a mood of teshuva, of serious repentance.
His second reason is a little less obvious. When a person fasts, he feels hungry and endures considerable discomfort. By placing himself in such a predicament, he becomes acutely sensitive and appreciative of the constant distress that a poor person experiences throughout his life. This increased awareness will heighten his feelings of empathy for the poor man's condition and will move him to offer greater assistance to his unfortunate fellow.
The Ben Ish Chai applies this explanation to clarify an enigmatic statement in the Talmud. In Berachos (6b), we are told that, "the reward for fasting is charity." He explains that the Talmud is telling us that the "take away" of a day of fasting is that it will inspire a person to give charity. His very act of fasting will sensitize him to be more caring about the less fortunate people around and accordingly will arouse within him the desire to help them to a greater degree.
Now, "charity" can be fulfilled in dollars and cents, or it can find expression by the manner in which we treat others. Treating another "charitably" means to be understanding and forgiving. It means to consider how a bit of chesed on my part might make all the difference in the life of another. Broadly speaking, "fasting" is a deprivation of sorts; physical, yes, but it can extend to emotional anguish or emptiness as well. By temporarily placing oneself in a situation similar to that of a person in distress – by fasting - one is able to show a far greater appreciation for his fellow's plight and thus respond with the charity of chesed.
Here's but one example.
Rav Shach, zt"l, excelled in doing chesed by showing an understanding of his fellow's challenges. On one occasion, he heard about a widower who was depressed to the point that he stopped functioning. Rav Shach decided to visit the man in an attempt to bring him out of his misery. Receiving no response to his knock, he let himself in and found the man lying motionless on the couch. "I know what you are going through," he said to the man. "I'm also a widower. My world is dark and I have no joy." The man's eyes lit up for the first time in months - this encounter was the catalyst of the man's resumption of a normal life. What was Rav Shach's secret? By stressing that he too experienced the feelings of losing a spouse, he showed the man that somebody truly understood his pain.
This lesson of fasting is particularly relevant to the 'Three Weeks' we are about to observe. Chazal tell us (Yuma 9b) that the Second Temple was destroyed because of failings in the area of bein adam lechaveiro, man's relation to his fellow. If, by fasting, we can deepen our compassion for others and engender feelings of warmth and kindness to them, then these three weeks can help repair the terrible sins of the past and hold out Gd's promise of Tisha B'Av transforming from a day of mourning to a day of festivity.
To appreciate what you have, develop your ability to form mental images. In the Pesach Haggadah, the Sages say we are obligated to view ourselves as having "once been slaves who have now gained freedom."
The more you are able to picture what life would be like if you were a slave and how elated you would feel on obtaining your freedom, the more grateful you will feel that you are presently free. Every day try to imagine that feeling.
Love yehuda lave
Danse Bacchanale, from "Samson et Dalila" (Saint-Saens)
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Today's Featured Ask the Rabbi Question
Soul for a Fetus?
Where in Torah is there a reference to the exact time when God places the soul into the human being? Do Jews believe that babies have souls before birth?
The Aish Rabbi Replies:
This is a very deep subject. The Talmud (Sanhedrin 110b) mentions five possibilities of when the soul enters, apparently representing a continuum of deeper levels of the soul: at conception, at birth, at the circumcision (8th day), at the time he begins speaking, and when he responds to blessings with "amen."
According to the great kabbalist the Arizal (16th century Israel), the soul is actually formed during sexual contact - even if there is no baby born from the union. Furthermore, according to Arizal, in the Messianic era when the dead will be resurrected from their graves, everyone will find that they have many additional children, as the souls that they created during marital relations will come to life at that time.
THINK THINGS MOVE FAST NOW,WAIT WHEN YOU LOOK BACK
Stay with this -- the answer is at the end... It will blow you away.
One evening a grandson was talking to his grandmother About current events.
The grandson asked his grandmother what she thought About the shootings at schools, the computer age, and
Just things in general.
The Grandmother replied, "Well, let me think a minute,
I was born before: 'television 'penicillin 'polioshots 'frozenfoods 'Xerox 'contactlenses 'Frisbees and 'thepill
There were no: 'creditcards 'laser beams or 'ball-pointpens
Man had notyetinvented: 'pantyhose 'air conditioners 'dishwashers 'clothes dryers 'and the clotheswere hung out to dryin the fresh air and 'man hadn't yetwalked on the moon
Your Grandfather and I got married first, and then lived together. Every family had a fatherand a mother.
Until I was 25, I called every manolder than me, "Sir."
And after I turned 25, I still calledpolicemen and every man Witha title, "Sir."
We were before gay-rights,computer-dating, dual careers,daycare centers, and group therapy.
Our lives were governed by the TenCommandments, good judgment, and common sense.
We were taught to know thedifference between right and Wrongand to stand up and take responsibilityfor our actions.
Serving your country was a privilege; living in this country was A bigger privilege.
We thought fast food was what peopleate during Lent.
Having a meaningful relationship meant getting along with Your cousins.
Draft dodgers were those who closed frontdoors as the Evening breeze started.
Time-sharing meant time the familyspent together in the Eveningsand weekends - not purchasingcondominiums.
We never heard of FM radios, tape decks , CD's, electric typewriters, yogurt, or guys wearing earrings.
We listened to Big Bands, Jack Benny,and the President's speeches on our radios.
If you saw anything with 'Made in Japan 'on it, it was junk.
The term 'making out' referred to howyou did on your school exam.
Pizza Hut, McDonald's,and instant coffee were unheard of. We had 5 &10-cent (5 and dime) stores where youcould actually buy things for 5 and 10 cents.
Ice-cream cones, phone calls, rides on a streetcar,and a Pepsi were all a nickel.
And if you didn't want to splurge, you couldspend your nickel on enough stamps to mail 1 letterand 2 postcards.
You could buy a new Ford Coupe for $600,but who could Afford one? Too bad, because gas was
11 cents a gallon.
In my day:
'"grass"was mowed, '"coke" was a cold drink, '"pot" was something yourmother cooked in and '"rock music" wasyour grandmother's lullaby. '"Aids" werehelpers in the Principal's office, '"chip" meanta piece of wood, '"hardware"was found in a hardware store and. '"software" wasn't even a word.
We were the last generation toactually believe that a lady neededa husband to have a baby. We volunteered to protect our precious country. No wonder people call us "old and confused" and say there is a generation gap.
How old do you think I am?
Read on to see -- pretty scary if you think about it and pretty sad at the same time.
This woman would be only 63years old. She would have been born in late 1952.
GIVES YOU SOMETHING TO THINKABOUT.
PASS THIS ONTO THE OTHER "OLD ONES." <BECAUSE THE YOUNG ONES WOULDN'T BELIEVE IT.
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