Excessive guilt feelings for past failings will prevent you from doing more good deeds in the present.
Focus on doing as many good deeds as possible. Imagine a person with a limited time to collect diamonds from a large pile. Whatever he puts in his sack is his. In his haste he might accidentally drop a few. Only a fool would stop collecting more and bemoan his misfortune. Any sensible person would keep focused on the many diamonds he is still able to collect, and work diligently to pick up as many as he can. What is lost is truly a great loss, but he still has an immense amount of wealth to gain by gathering more.
A person who has failed to do some good deed is in a similar situation. If he merely keeps telling himself he is an awful person, it will keep him from trying to do as many good deeds as possible in the present.
Diligently try to do as much good as possible in the present. Every good deed we perform is a valuable jewel. The wise person gathers as much spiritual wealth as possible.
The same applies to all the classes I am listed below for Monday night and Tuesday for Tisha Abov. You can't go to them all but you can gather up some diamonds.
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What is Tisha B'Av
Tisha B'Av, the 9th day of the month of Av (Jul. 31 - Aug. 1, 2017), is the saddest day on the Jewish calendar, on which we fast, deprive ourselves and pray. It is the culmination of the Three Weeks, a period of time during which we mark the destruction of the Holy Temple in Jerusalem.
What Happened on 9 Av
1313 BCE: The spies returned from the Promised Land with frightening reports, and the Israelites balked at the prospect of entering the land. G‑ddecreed that they would therefore wander in the desert for 40 years. Read more.
Both Holy Temples in Jerusalem were destroyed on this date. The First Temple was burned by the Babylonians in 423 BCE (read more) and the Second Temple fell to the Romans in 70 CE (read more), unleashing a period of suffering from which our nation has never fully recovered.
The Bar Kochba revolt against the Romans in 133 CE ended in defeat: The Jews of Betar were butchered on the 9th of Av and the Temple Mount was plowed one year later on the same date. Read more.
Later on in our history, many more tragedies happened on this day, including the 1290 expulsion of England's Jews and the 1492banishment of all Jews from Spain. Read more.
Starting from midday on 8 Av, we limit our Torah study to the few allowed topics that are of a sad nature or pertain to the Temples' destruction.
We eat a square meal in the afternoon, before Minchah services. Then, late in the afternoon, a "separation meal," seudah hamafseket, is eaten. It consists of bread and a hard-boiled egg dipped in ashes, accompanied by water. This meal is eaten alone, sitting on a low stool. (See here for how this plays out when Tisha B'Av follows Shabbat.)
The meal must be over by sundown, when all the laws of Tisha B'Av take effect.
Tisha B'Av evening services are held in synagogue, where the ark has been stripped of its decorative curtain and the lights dimmed. Evening prayers are followed by the chanting of Eichah (Lamentations).
Morning prayers are held without tallit and tefillin, since both are considered adornments. Most of the morning is occupied by the reading of Kinot, elegies marking the various tragedies that befell our people.
Work is permitted on Tisha B'Av, but discouraged. On this day, one's focus should be on mourning and repentance. If one must work, it is preferable to begin after midday.
It is customary to give extra charity on Tisha B'Av, as on every fast day.
After midday, it is permissible to sit on chairs, and tallit and tefillin are worn during the afternoon prayer. In the synagogue, the ark's curtain is restored to its place before the afternoon prayers.
Many communities have the custom to clean the house and wash the floors after midday, in anticipation of the Redemption, which we await.
When night falls, before breaking the fast, one should perform netilat yadayim (hand-washing), this time covering the entire hand with water, but without reciting the blessing. It is also customary to perform Kiddush Levanah at this point, celebrating the rebirth of the moon, and our hoped-for national rebirth.
The Temple was set ablaze on the afternoon of the 9th of Av, and it burned through the 10th. Therefore, the restrictions of the Nine Days (such as not eating meat, swimming or laundering clothing) extend until midday of the 10th of Av.
The Joy Within the Sadness
Even as we mourn, there is an element of joy and comfort. Indeed, the reading of Eichah concludes with the verse "Restore us to You, O L‑rd, that we may be restored! Renew our days as of old." There is also a custom among many to use flimsy paperback Kinot booklets, hoping that they will not be needed next year.
It is by no accident that Scripture refers to this day as a mo'ed, a holiday, and Tachanun (prayer of repentance) is not said today. May the time soon come when we look back with the clarity of hindsight to see how all our suffering was but a prelude to happiness and goodness, with the coming ofMoshiach. Amen!
Tisha B'Av evening after Kinot (8:45 PM)- Rabbi Jeff Bienefeld will give a shiur. TOPIC:Confronting the Sin of the Churban
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Ohr Samayach Schedule
TISHA B'AV 5777 AT OHR SOMAYACH MONDAY NIGHT-JULY 31 8:10 pm Maariv & Eicha followed by a shiur by Rabbi Yitzchak Dalah TISHA B'AV DAY-AUGUST 1 7:50 am Shacharit 8:50 am - 12:15 pm Special Kinot Reading & Explanation with Rav Yitzchak Breitowitz, Rav, Kehillat Ohr Somayach 12:15 pm - Eicha ALL-DAY SEMINAR FEATURING TALKS BY: 12:45 pm Rav Nota Schiller, Rosh Hayeshiva 1:45 pm Rav Yitzchak Breitowitz 2:45 pm Rav Nachshon Schiller, Rosh Yeshiva, Ohr Shmuel 3:30 pm Rabbi Dovid Kaplan 4:15 pm Rabbi Dovid Gottlieb 5:00 pm Rabbi Avraham Rockmill 5:45 pm Rabbi Reuven Lauffer 6:15 pm Rabbi Yaacov Asher Sinclair 7:30 pm Rabbi Yehuda Samet 6:50 pm Mincha - 7:59 pm Maariv - End of Fast 8:05 pm Ezrat Nashim will be open throughout the day. Why 22 Shimon Hatzadik Street, Maalot Daphna, Jerusalem Bus 25, 45, 34 & Light Rail to Shimon Hatzadik arutz yashir tisha bav 5777 ad A4_Layout 1 20-Jul-17 12:26 PM Page 1
They are expecting extreme temperatures on Tisha B'av, esp in Yerushalayim. Make sure to drink beforehand plenty and take necessary precautions.
Date: Monday night and Tuesday, July 31- August 1.
Maariv & Eicha (Monday Night): 8 PM at EMEK REFAIM 45 LOCATION Shacharit & Kinot (Tuesday): 8:15 AM at CHOPIN 3 LOCATION Mincha (Tuesday): 1:20 PM, followed by the movie Bridging Worlds at EMEK REFAIM 45 LOCATION
Eretz Chemdah, Bruriya 2: Monday Evening: 7.35 pm – Fast Starts 8.00 pm – Maariv & Eicha Tuesday Morning: 8:00 am – Shacharit followed by an in-depth analysis of selected Kinnot led by Rabbi Prof. Daniel Sinclair. 8.05 pm – Fast Ends.
In addition to the programs listed above and below, Rabbi Pincus Rosenzweig will give a class at 11:00 At Mayanot Shul On Narkis street.
10:15 AM – 2:30 PM Rabbi Chaim Ilson will give a shiur in English on Themes of the Kinnot. (The shiur will be streamed). Rabbi Chaim Ilson - Rabbi Chaim Ilson was a leading talmid of Rabbi J.B.. Soleveitchik Z"L (The Rov) at RIETS/YU for over 10 years. He coedited (with Rabbi Dr. Haym Soloveichick and Rabbi Yitzchak Lichtenstein) Chidushai Hagram Halevi,Chiddushei Hagram v' Hagrid and Igros Hagrid Halevi He led a kollel for 10 years and then opened Yeshiva Derech HaTalmud. As a Brisker, Rav Ilson tries to give over a particular derech to his students that teaches them to learn simple p'shat in the gemarah and rishonim by "reading the words." He is not fond of pilpul and "reid." He is a truly brilliant mind – he recently published a sefer Pri Chaim on sheve'is and is working on sefarim on on Sefer Hamitzvos. Rambam Hilchos Tefillah, the Moadim, Ohalos, and Chullin. Rabbi Ilson is one of the few talmidim who was zocheh to study with the Rov in his apartment (along with the Rov's grandson, Moshe Twersky) He has a very likable style of saying a shiur and is very warm and personable with his talmidim
Question: Do disposable vessels and electric kettles require immersion in a Mikveh?
Answer: In the previous Halachot, we have discussed the general law that any new vessels purchased from a non-Jew must be immersed in a Mikveh before using them. We shall now discuss whether or not disposable vessels require immersion.
We have already explained that according to Maran zt"l, plastic vessels do not require immersion even if they are not disposable. We must therefore discuss the law regarding disposable aluminum vessels (such as pans, cookie sheets, and the like) and whether or not they require immersion in a Mikveh.
We find a similar discussion regarding the Mitzvah of Kiddush on Shabbat which must be recited on a cup of wine. The Poskim discuss whether or not a disposable cup can be considered a "vessel" regarding this matter. If a disposable cup is considered a "vessel" regarding Kiddush, it should follow that the same is true regarding immersion in a Mikveh. If so, disposable aluminum vessels would halachically require immersion.
Maran zt"l discusses this topic in his Chazon Ovadia-Shabbat (Volume 2) and he concludes that disposable cups are indeed valid for the Mitzvah of Kiddush according to the letter of the law as they are indeed considered "vessels" and the same would hold true regarding the status of disposable vessels with regards to immersion in a Mikveh. Nevertheless, Maran zt"l adds that since there are several Poskim who differentiate between the laws of Kiddush and immersion, such vessels should be immersed without reciting a blessing in order to avoid a possible blessing in vain.
We must nevertheless point out that many aluminum vessels produced in Israel are not produced by non-Jews; rather, they are manufactured by Jewish companies. Even regarding aluminum vessels produces outside of Israel, there is indeed basis to exempt them from immersion in a Mikveh, for aluminum was a metal which was not yet discovered in earlier generations and the Torah does not delineate an explicit commandment to immerse aluminum. Maran zt"l himself uses this rationale to rule leniently on an unrelated matter (regarding the laws of impurity of a corpse, see Chazon Ovadia-Avelut, Part 2). He quotes that Hagaon Harav Moshe Feinstein zt"l rules likewise. Thus, one need not protest vehemently against those who customarily use such disposable aluminum vessels without first immersing them in a Mikveh, for they indeed have on whom to rely (this is especially true if one is unsure if the owner of the company is Jewish or not).
An Electric Kettle The Poskim disagree whether or not an electric kettle requires immersion, for we have a rule that anything attached to the ground does not require immersion in a Mikveh since a vessel which cannot become impure does not require immersion and anything attached to the ground cannot become impure. Thus, several Poskim, including Hagaon Harav Shlomo Zalman Auerbach zt"l,write that since the primary usage of an electric kettle is when it is plugged into the outlet, it is considered attached to the ground and does not require immersion. However, halachically speaking, even Hagaon Harav Auerbach did not wish to rely on this reason alone to exempt electric kettles from immersion, for they are used even when they are not connected to the outlet.
Indeed, Maran Rabbeinu Ovadia Yosef zt"l writes that it is preferable to act stringently and immerse an electric kettle in the Mikveh. If one is worried that immersing it in water will ruin it, one should give it to a non-Jew as a gift and then ask him to lend it back to him, for one who borrows or rents a vessel from a non-Jew need not immerse the vessel since he has not purchased them fully and this is no longer comparable to the vessels of Midyan which the Jewish nation took full ownership of. Hagaon Harav Shlomo Zalman Auerbach adds another way to exempt the electric kettle from immersion and that is by giving it to a licensed Jewish electrician who will then take it apart in a professional manner that not just anyone could try at home. The electrician should then put it back together and this will be considered as though one had purchased the kettle from a Jew and it will not require immersion.
Summary: Disposable aluminum vessels produced outside of Israel require immersion in a Mikveh without a blessing. (Some rule leniently on this matter.) An electric kettle likewise requires immersion without a blessing. One can exempt it from immersion by giving it as a gift to a non-Jew and then asking the non-Jew to lend it back to him. Another way to exempt the kettle from immersion is by having a Jewish electrician take it apart in a professional manner and then putting it back together again.
Jerusalem – Then and Now | בית אבי חי
Old Historic pictures in the library of Beit Avi High
A person who finds himself in a challenging environment is likely to find it difficult to maintain happiness. But he will still be able to create moments of joy throughout each day.
Moments of joy add up. The more joyful moments you experience, the easier it will be to create even more moments of joy. And when you think about your life, these moments of joy will automatically come to your mind.
During Tish abov coming up on Tuesday (Monday night) we are supposed to be in mourning so we don't great people and contemplete the loss of our holy temple in Jerusalem. This year it is very easy to do so, as we have lost soverignty again.
The new diet program will be very easy for Tis abov as it is a 25 hour fast.
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Tish'a B'Av / תשעה באב Tisha B'Av (Hebrew: תשעה באב or ט׳ באב, "the Ninth of Av,") is an annual fast day in Judaism, named for the ninth day (Tisha) of the month of Av in the Hebrew calendar. The fast commemorates the destruction of both the First Temple and Second Temple in Jerusalem, which occurred about 655 years apart, but on the same Hebrew calendar date. Tisha B'Av is never observed on Shabbat. If the 9th of Av falls on a Saturday, the fast is postponed until the 10th of Av. Tish'a B'Av begins at sundown on Mon, 31 July 2017.
The Ninth Day of Av guide for the perplexed (August 1, 2017) Ambassador (ret.) Yoram Ettinger, "Second Thought: a US-Israel Initiative" Based on ancient Jewish sages, http://bit.ly/2tNw81q
More information: https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/499393 (pdf) 1. Forgetfulness feeds oblivion; remembrance breeds deliverance. According to a legend, Napoleon was walking one night in the streets of Paris, hearing lamentations emanating from a synagogue. When told that the wailing commemorated the 586 BCE destruction of the First Jewish Temple in Jerusalem he stated: "People who solemnize ancient history are destined for a glorious future!" The verb "to remember" (זכור) appears almost 200 times in the Old Testament, including the Ten Commandments. Judaism obligates parents to transfer tradition/memories to the younger generation.
2. The most calamitous day in Jewish history. The 9th Day of Av (the 11th Jewish month) is first mentioned in the book of Zechariah 7:3. One of four Jewish fast days, it commemorates dramatic national catastrophes (related to the destruction of Jerusalem), in an attempt to benefit from history by avoiding – rather than repeating – critical, moral and strategic missteps. It concludes the 21 days of predicament and lamentation, which began when the walls of Jerusalem were breached by Nebuchadnezzar (1st Temple) and Titus (2nd Temple), launching a seven-week period of consolation, ingathering and renewal.
3. Major Jewish calamities are commemorated on the 9th Day of Av:
* Unlike Joshua & Caleb, the other "ten spies/tribal presidents" slandered the Land of Israel, preferring immediate convenience and conventional "wisdom" over faith and long term vision, thus prolonging the wandering in the desert for 40 years, before settling the Promised Land; *The destruction of the First Temple and Jerusalem by Nebuchadnezzar of Babylon (586 BCE) resulted in the massacre of 100,000 Jews and a massive national exile; *The destruction of the Second Temple and Jerusalem by Titus of Rome (70 CE) triggered the massacre of 1 million Jews and another massive national exile, aiming to annihilate Judaism and the Jewish people; *The Ten Martyrs – ten leading rabbis – executed by the Roman Empire; *The Bar Kokhbah Revolt was crushed with the killing of Bar Kokhbah, the fall of his Beitar headquarters (135 CE) - south of Jerusalem in Judea and Samaria - the plowing of Jerusalem, and the killing of 600,000 Jews by the Roman Empire; *The pogroms of the First Crusade (1096-1099) massacred tens of thousands of Jews in Germany, France, Italy and Britain; *The Jewish expulsion from Britain (1290); *The Jewish expulsion from Spain (1492); *The eruption of the First World War (1914); *The beginning of the 1942 deportation of Warsaw Ghetto Jews to the Treblinka extermination camp.
4. From Auschwitz to the Jewish State, from exile to the ingathering/liberty in the Land of Israel. A key message of the Ninth Day of Av, personally and collectively/nationally: sustain faith and hope, and refrain from forgetfulness, despair, fatalism and pessimism, irrespective of the odds, which may seem – through conventional, short-term lenses – insurmountable.
5. The centrality of Jerusalem in Jewish history is commemorated on the 9th day of Av. It is highlighted by Psalm 137:5 – "If I forget thee, O Jerusalem, let my right hand forget her cunning. If I do not remember thee, let my tongue cleave to the roof of my mouth, if I prefer not Jerusalem above my chief joy." According to the Babylonian Talmud, Ta'anit 30: "He who laments the destruction of Jerusalem will be privileged to witness its renewal."
6. From destruction to deliverance and renewal. The Book of the five Lamentations (The Scroll of Eikhah which was composed by Jeremiah the Prophet, who prophesized destruction, exile and deliverance) is read during the first nine days of Av. The numerical value of the Hebrew letters of Eikhah (איכה) is 36, which is equal to the traditional number of righteous Jewish persons. The Hebrew meaning of Eikhah (איכה) could be interpreted as a reproaching "How Come?!", as well as, "Where are you?" or "Why have you strayed away?" The term איכה features in the first chapter of Deuteronomy and the first chapter of Isaiah, which are studied annually in conjunction with the book of Lamentations on the 9th day of Av. Thus the 9th day of Av binds together the values of Moses, Jeremiah and Isaiah. 7. Humility – a prerequisite for worthy leadership. Fasting on the 9th day of Av expresses the recognition of one's limitations and fallibility, and the constant pursuit of moral enhancement The four Jewish days of fasting commemorate the destruction of the two Temples: the 10th Day of Tevet (the onset of the Nebuchadnezzar's siege of Jerusalem); the 17th day of Tamuz (the day the walls of Jerusalem were breached); the 9th day of Av (the destruction of both Temples); and the 3rd day of Tishrei (The murder of Governor Gedalyah - who maintained a level of post-destruction Jewish autonomy - which led to a murderous rampage by the Babylonians and to exile). 8. A crisis is a launching pad to growth. The month of Av launches the transformation from curse and decay to blessing and renewal. The Hebrew spelling of Av (אב) consists of the first two letters of the Hebrew alpha-Beth, the spelling of "father" and "bud," and the first two letters of "spring" (אביב which also means "the father of twelve months"). The numerical value of Av, אב, (א=1 and ב=2) is 3, the combination of the basic even and odd numbers ("A cord of 3 strands is not easily broken," Ecclesiastes 4:12). The zodiac sign of Av is a lion, representing the Lion of Judah, rising from the ashes of the destruction caused by Nebuchadnezzar, whose symbol was the lion. The fast of the 9th day of Av is succeeded by the 15th day of Av – a holiday of love and reconciliation.
Solomon's Stables on the Temple Mount: History and Destruction
Hello everyone! We are starting a new video series on YouTube taking you on a tour of the Temple Mount! Check out the first video and see Solomon's Stables! This structure has a rich history and is now the Al-Marwani Mosque. This is also the area of the Temple Mount from where most of our material originated.
Triumph: Arabs Stone Kotel, Riot & Raise PLO Flag Over Temple Mount Yosef Rabin Jerusalem, Israel Jul 27, 2017 — 24 hours after the Israeli Security Cabinet voted to remove both the metal detectors and security cameras from all gates of the Temple Mount (except of course from the Mugrabim Gate - only Jewish access point); thousand of Arabs flooded the Mount to riot and celebrate their "victory" over the Jewish State. In jubilation, Arabs raised the PLO Flag over the Temple Mount and attacked police on the Mount and threw stones down at Jewish worshipers at the Kotel Plaza (no injuries were reported). In response Police used crowd-control measures including tear gas, shock grenades, and rubber bullets. Over 100 Arab rioters were wounded during their orgy of terror and one Israeli police officer was injured in the line of duty. Before the start of the riots, Police Commissioner Roni Alsheich called a press conference and tried to spin Israel's capitulation by claiming that "the metal detectors are "not effective anyway". This begs the question if Israel will also remove metal detectors from the Kotel, the air port and of course from the Mugrabim Gate. In response to these events, the Movement for Temple Renewal is announcing an upcoming fundraiser to aid Jewish Temple Mount activism and a call-in/fax campaign to the Israeli Embassy's worldwide to protest the capitulation to Arab terror. ***More details will be released before Shabbat.*** Please continue posting the petition. English - https://www.change.org/p/sign-and-share-the-temple-mount-manifesto El Manifiesto de Monte del Templo - Haga clic aquí https://goo.gl/Knix8Q
Every Israeli Government since 1967 has systematically denied the Jewish People of the right to pray and worship on the Temple Mount and Jews are routinely arrested and harassed for even attempting religious acts on the Mount. This policy is a gross violation of Jewish and Democratic principles. Click here to read - The TEMPLE MOUNT REPORT - The Denial of Jewish Prayer on the Temple Mount.
אנו (פעילי הר הבית ותומכיהם) עובדים קשה על מנת להשיג מספר משמעותי של חותמים על העצומה הזו קודם שנשלח אותה לראה"מ נתניהו. למרות שאנו מודעים לכך שנדיר שעצומות משנות מציאות, זו יכולה לשמש ככלי להעברת דעת הציבור לראש הממשלה בנוגע להר הבית. מסיבה זו הכרחי שנאסוף אלפי חתימות. אחיזת ראש הממשלה בכסאו הינה רעועה. ניתן למצביעים להראות לו שלזכויות היהודים בהר הבית ישנה משמעות עצומה עבורנו. אנא חיתמו ושתפו.
Whereas the Temple Mount is the holiest site to the Jewish Nation;
Whereasthe Temple Mount is the site of the Jewish Temple destroyed first by Babylon in 587 BCE and again by Roman Legions in 69 CE; and whereas the Jewish People have never abandoned hope of returning to the site of their ruined Temple;
Whereas the liberation of the Temple Mount and the Old City of Jerusalem during the Six-Day War in 1967 was not only an act of self-defense but a historic act of justice in restoring the Jewish Nation to their holiest site;
Whereasthe current 'status quo' denies the historic longing and aspiration of the Jewish Nation to once again pray and worship at the site of their ancient Temple; and whereas the continued Palestinian violence, incitement, and destruction of Temple antiquities on the Mount constitutes a grave desecration of the holy site;
Resolved that the undersigned support the freedom of peaceful Jewish prayer, worship, and assembly on the Temple Mount, in accordance with Torah Law, and call upon the Government of Israel to annul the anti-Jewish & Democratic "status quo" immediately.
This petition will be delivered to:
Prime Minister of Israel Benjamin Netanyahu
President of Israel Reuven Rivlin
MK & Speaker of the Knesset Yuli Edelstein
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Tisha Bav connection to the Parsha
As is always the case, the Parsha of Devarim precedes the Tisha B'Av commemoration. Many have sought a connection between the two and I'd like to focus upon one.
In 1:27, we are told that in the wake of the frightening report of the 10 Spies, the People reacted with the absurd allegation that "because of HaShem's hatred (sinas HaShem) for us did He take us out of the land of Egypt, to deliver us into the hand of the Amorite to destroy us." Why would an otherwise intelligent People, especially after all the miracles and wonders Gd had performed for them, not to mention His promise to our Forefathers, how could they make such a ludicrous claim? Rashi (ad loc) offers a brilliant psychological insight from the Sifrei, foreshadowing what modern psychology accepts as truth. In Rashi's words, "As the popular saying goes, 'That which is in your heart about your friend is what you think is in his heart about you.'" If, indeed, we are taking about the Freudian defense mechanism of projection ("Gd hates me" translates into "I hate Gd"), then I would add this extension. To hate Gd can mean that I hate myself.
Before continuing, allow me to be clear about this. To be angry with Gd, not to understand why HaShem does what He does, such feelings are understandable. But to actually hate Gd, well, that speaks to something unhealthy within us. To sincerely believe that Gd hates me because deep down I hate Gd may be another way of masking the horrible truth that I hate myself.
I advance this possibility because in attempting to uncover the root cause of sinas chinom, the needless hatred that precipitated the Churban (see Yuma 9b), it may be that the source of this unconscionable sin may very well lie in the sad reality that when we don't think much of ourselves, we often act out our self-inflicted hatred upon others.
Unfortunately, in our contemporary culture of material and intellectual one-upmanship, it is all too easy to find reasons to be so unhappy with ourselves that it borders on self-hatred. A person dreads his work; he is one unhappy fellow. He hates feeling trapped in a job he does not like but cannot leave because of the money. I imagine that when such a person comes home he may act out with an anger totally disproportionate to a small mistake a family member may make. Take an individual who compares himself to others and invariably comes up short. Here's another depressed spirit, angry with himself for not being what he feels he ought to be. What is the likelihood that such a person will display some "needless hatred" to others, relieving his self hatred by taking it out on those closest to him.
There are certainly many healthy ways of dealing with angry feelings of inferiority, but sinas chinom is not one of them. Here's a bit of advice I recently came across, especially when there might be just a tad of truth behind the "needless hatred."
A lit matchstick will burn about twenty seconds before it burns out. However, if one places the match upon a pack of tissues, it will burn for about a minute or so before going out. If you place clothing there as well, it will take even longer for the fire to die. Now add densely packed wood; the fire will burn for a long time.
When someone insults you and you are angry, that might not be sinas chinam. Your hurt feelings are certainly understandable, but if you don't add anything to this fire, it will die after a short while. By tomorrow, everything should be forgotten. The problem is that people don't let go of their hard feelings. They speak about what happened, they rehash the episode in their minds, and they seek reasons to justify their anger. There is no valid excuse to add factors into the story, fuel to the fire. Why not let the hatred die out. Why keep stoking the fire?
And if the root of that fire is self-inflicted, muster up the courage to identify it as such and not allow that terrible yetzer hara to hurt others. Remind yourself that as a noble and dignified being created in Gd's image, your inner worth is infinitely precious and your singular destiny is unique and special in its own right.
It is the curing of this sinas chinam, writ small, that is the answer to repairing the sins of the past, writ large, and with that repentance see the ushering in of the rebuilding of the Beis HaMikdash and the great Messianic Era.