Now that Yom Kippur is over we can focus on the happy holiday of Succout. Some things happening are below the motivational message:
Here is a message for raising children:
So the first message you want to get across to children is that life's difficulties are given to us in order to reveal inner strengths which we would never discover if everything went smoothly and we got everything we wanted.
1. PAIN isn't always bad. It's could be a sign that Hashem has chosen you for some specific challenge.
2. FAILURE isn't the end of the world. It's part of life. No one escapes failure. No one grows without taking risks and falling down. A Zadick has to fall seven times.
3. FEELINGS are fleeting. We don't have to make a big deal out of our own or our children's feelings. Acknowledge them. Be empathetic (usually, a few seconds is all that's needed) and then MOVE ON to solutions.
MANIPULATION usually starts with certain phrases, such as: I can't. Why do I have to? It's not fair! It's not my fault. That's not my job. You're mean. But all the other kids…. It's too hard. You don't understand. Later. I hate…Why? These words are signals to you that manipulation has been set in motion. Don't get angry. It's natural, unconscious behavior. All kids will try to manipulate in order to test the boundaries and to feel more secure by getting you to set down the law.
Don't answer "why" questions when they are argumentative, "Why do I have to clean when I didn't make the mess?" "Why do I have to do all this homework?" "Why do I have to go to sleep so early?" Encourage independence and control over their emotions.
Love Yehuda Lave
Official Sukkot events in Jerusalem Sept 23 to October 2, 2018
The following are the official Sukkot events of the Jerusalem Municipality.
The Jerusalem March The traditional Jerusalem Parade will take place on Thursday, 18 Tishrei 5769, Sukkot, 27/9/2018 The Jerusalem march, which is the oldest and largest march in Israel for the past 63 years, will mark the 70th anniversary of the State of Israel.
The day of the march will include three sub-events; A morning walk on nature trails, a happening in Sacher Park and a festive parade in the streets of central Jerusalem. The event will be held in cooperation with Machtachavim.
A festive and central parade - starting at 15:00 The march will feature representative groups, marching bands, IDF soldiers, street artists, dance groups, etc. Nearly 60,000 people are expected to take part in a huge march by the Jerusalem Municipality, in cooperation with Rashi, connecting to a common future, of which 10,000 will come from 35 countries From around the world.
The parade will take off at 15:30 from Bezalel Street, through Hillel St., Ben Sira Street, King David and end at the station compound. The stage of honor will be placed on King David Street (near the YMCA).
A morning walk Track A - for those who walk about 12 km (jump from 07:00 to 09:00) Ammunition Hill - Mount Scopus, Emek Tzurim, Yad Avshalom, Dung Gate, Mount Zion, Teddy Park, Yemin Moshe, Beit Hanassi, Rehavia, Sacher Park. Track B - difficulty level built about 10 km (leap from 07:30 to 09:30)
A leap from Mount Scopus - Emek Tzurim, Yad Avshalom, the Dung Gate, the Study Center, Teddy Park, Yemin Moshe, Beit Hanassi, Rehavia, Sacher Park. Track C - Track for families with slight difficulty - about 5 km (leap from 08:00 to 10:00)
Jump from Safra Square - Jaffa Gate, Zion Gate, Teddy Park, Yemin Moshe, Beit Hanassi, Rehavia, Sacher Park. All the tracks will be available to the marchers - content stations, stalls, activities and games for children and families, guides to know the country, music and refreshment stations.
Registration for individuals is at the start points in the morning on morning walks and for pre-registration groups only at 02-6298047 from 08:00 to 16:00. Sacher Park Happening (10: 00-16: 00)
Activities for the entire family, the marchers and the residents of Jerusalem. Family happening, shows, stages, artists, fair stands, children's world and more and everything is free!
The main show - the main show this year in Sacher Park will be the full performance of the ensemble "Revivo's Project". The main show for children will be the show "Sheep Shoshana" starring Moshe Datz - the performances are free. "In the yards" - a festival of music, workshops, storytellers and tours in the most beautiful and magical courtyards in Jerusalem On Wednesday, Sukkot (26/9), there will be dozens of free shows and events in the courtyards of the Museum of Italian Jewry, the Museum of North African Jewry, the Anna Ticho House and the Elboher Courtyard in Nahlaot, adjacent to the camp market in Judea.
The Jerusalem Municipality will hold a vibrant festival for the first time in four beautiful and charming courtyards in the city. The festival will offer participants a chance to get to know the multicultural mosaic in Jerusalem through the sounds, the stories, the characters and the different tastes. During the week of Sukkot (26/9), from 11:00 am to 19:00 pm, will take place in the courtyards of the Museum of Italy (25 Hillel St.), North African Jewry Museum (13 Involvement Street), Anna Ticho House (10 Agan St.) and the Elboher Courtyard in Nahlaot (12 Agrippas Street), dozens of events and performances.
Museum of Italian Jewry - there will be performances dedicated to the Yemenite, Ethiopian and Kurdish communities. Among the participants will be Shlomo Gronich, saxophonist Abate Berihon, Ishai Saidoff with a Kurdish band and Aharon Amram and his sons who will celebrate the song of Yemenite Jewry. The North African Jewish Museum - Shlomo Bar and the members of the Natural Selection will perform in a new original performance, Patrick Shmuel Yashir Shiri Chanson and throughout the day there will be Andalusian liturgical performances from the tradition of Moroccan Jews.
In the courtyard of the Anna Ticho House, the actors Golan Azoulay, Koby Arieli and Adam Tzachi will host a satirical performance, as well as singer Ovadia Hamama and others.
In the Elbohar Courtyard (Nahlaot) near the Mahaneh Yehuda Market - the Israeli Ladino Orchestra will be accompanied by singer Dganit Dado. There will also be performances by Chilik Frank in Hassidic tunes, Elad Gabay and friends in Iraqi piyutim, Klezmer performances and more.
Throughout the day there will also be workshops and games for children, meetings with storytellers and tours to be held in some of the treasures of the city center of Jerusalem.
In order to make it easier for the visitors, an information post will be placed in the Horse Garden (the Pit Hishiver Park at King George Street 22), where additional details about the shows and the time of departure will be available.
All events at the "Bacharot" festival are free of charge. Additional information and information can be obtained at the Jerusalem Municipality website.
Ein Kerem Festival - Sukkot: 4 th - 6 th, 26-28 / 9/18 26-27 / 9/18 - 10: 00-23: 00, 28/9/18 - 09: 00-14: 00. Ein Kerem Festival - will take place in the Ein Karem neighborhood: a celebration of music and art, stands, wine and tasting in the valley. Events and a village celebration surrounding a communal sukkah, open houses, visits to charming corners and tours. A children's area and clowning, circus and magic performances. Admission is free!
The Derech Beit Lechem Festival, in the Baka neighborhood - Tuesday, 25/9/18 hours 17: 00-22: 00 The festival will be held under the theme of sustainability on the road - creating arts and culture in the community - a festival of music, art, stalls, community and workshops, Yad 2 sales and more activities and activities. Admission is free!
Sukkot tours in Safra Square The Municipality of Jerusalem - the Authority for Quality of Service and the Visitor Center conduct guided tours of the City Hall. The visit includes a tour of the city hall with its historic buildings, sculptures and decorations
In the Search for Meaning, Where Do We Look? By Hanna Perlberger
There is a familiar story of a man searching the sidewalk for his keys and looking frantically under the streetlight. When questioned by a passerby as to where he may have lost his keys, the man admits that he lost the keys inside his house. Since the light was so much brighter outside under the streetlight, however, he thought it best to look there.
We read this and think ... what a fool, looking for his lost object in obviously
At least this fool knows what he lost and where he lost it the wrong place, just because it is the "easiest" place to look. But at least this fool knows what he lost and where he lost it. Can we say the same? Many of us are not only looking in the wrong place for our lost objects, but we are even not sure what we're looking for. And yet, we are driven to search on and on. To what end?
According to Freud, the primary drive of man is the pursuit of pleasure. "Not so," said Nietzsche, "the primary drive of man is the pursuit of power." Viktor Frankl, the world-famous Viennese psychiatrist who suffered for three years in concentration camps during the Holocaust (and who endured the murder of his entire family and pregnant wife) nevertheless founded "logotherapy," which is the theory that the primary drive of man is not pleasure or power, but the search for meaning.
Many of us have an inner ache, a discontented restlessness, without knowing why. Frankl coined the term, "Sunday Neurosis," an existential anxiety formed from the vague awareness people get that their lives are empty and meaningless when they are not otherwise distracted by the work week. Some remained bored and apathetic; others try to fill the void, but cannot succeed because we cannot fill a spiritual hole with non-spiritual stuff. Yet, we keep trying.
So if a human being's primary drive is the search for meaning, where do we look? If it's not in the Himalayas, the ashram, the shrink's couch, the self-help section of the bookstore, the office, the lab, the studio, the field or even the sanctuary, then where?
In the Torah portion Nitzavim, Moses tells us exactly where to look. "It is not in heaven. Nor is it across the sea. Rather, the matter is very near to you—in your mouth and your heart—to perform it." Moses spoke these words to the Jewish people on the last day of his life, knowing that it was the last day of his life. The stakes couldn't be higher. What is this matter "that is near and dear that we are to perform"? "To love God, to walk in His ways and to observe His commandments." In a word, to embody the Torah.
Wait ... did I just lose you? "Sorry," you say, "but Torah is not the meaning of my life." If your view of Torah is that it is a bunch of dry, archaic "do's" and "don'ts," commanding strict, automaton-like adherence to meaningless and empty ritual, then I would totally agree with you. I wouldn't find that meaningful in the slightest. But that's not my view of the "matter of Torah."
If your religion doesn't make you a better person, spouse, parent, friend and lover of your fellow, it's not the "matter of Torah." If your religion doesn't make you compassionate and yearn to alleviate suffering, it's not the "matter of Torah." If you are not inspired to love justice and truth, and strive to live humbly with integrity, then it's simply not the "matter of Torah."
The "matter of Torah" that Moses tells us to look for is within us, in our hearts. It has to be real, and we have to own it. Otherwise, it may as well be high up in the heavens or across the distant sea; it means nothing as it is too far out of our orbit to be relevant. But let's be clear. It is we who push Torah away, who say it's not relevant or accessible. And as long as we keep this lie on our lips, we will keep looking for meaning under that streetlight.
That doesn't mean we get to decide on our own what Torah is or what it means. It doesn't mean that we can overlay the Torah with the imprimatur of our emotions or political viewpoints. Many phenomena exist objectively and independent of us. Certain things just "are," like gravity, which doesn't need our "buy-in" to be real and to affect us. On the other hand, while Torah also has an independent truth and reality, Torah very much wants our "buy-in." G‑d wants our partnership.
G-d wants our partnership that is the challenge: to take the light of an independent G‑dly reality and, through loving G‑d, walking in His ways and observing His commandments, understand that it is our reality also. We ask G‑d to "circumcise our hearts," to remove the spiritual impediment and barrier that keeps us locked in the illusion of separation from G‑d and each other.
Tradition teaches that when we are in the womb, an angel teaches us all of Torah, but that we forget it when we are born. We only "forget" it on the conscious level, however. After birth, the memories of all of our experiences lodge within us on a cellular level—how much more so that which we learn as we are forming in utero? That is why learning Torah is rediscovering Torah and uncovering a truth we already hold within.
When our hearts beat with the knowledge of this truth within us, then the "matter" is in our mouths. It drives our speech and our actions. It's who we are at our core. When an inauthentic persona does not imprison us, we are free to live in the joyful vibrancy of a congruent life.
While we are necessarily concerned with finding the meaning of our lives, let us start by finding the meaning of life itself. Then, we will find our real purpose and ourselves. Then, the object and the light will coincide, and unlike the fool, we will be looking for the right thing in the right place.
Internalize & Actualize:
What are three things you are looking for in your life? Where have you been looking for them? Do you feel you are looking in the right place? If not, where do you feel you need to be looking that you have perhaps been avoiding?
We often mistakenly believe that if we have certain external things that we will be happy, fulfilled, successful, etc. What are those things for you? How do you think they will change things for you and why?
Close your eyes, take a deep look within and focus on all the strengths, abilities, talents and gifts that you have internally. How can you use what you already have and who you already are to find the other things you are looking for in your life?
By Hanna Perlberger
First time: Construction for Jews in Beit Hanina - Israel National News
The Jewish calendar is full of notations, red letter days that are meant to be both particular reminders as well as part of a uniform one: time is passing; the sands of life have run out just a bit more; the beard is a little grayer and the limbs just a touch heavier. Time. The Jewish calendar is a watchman of time, ram's horn that blows not once a year but every time that a new time cycle begins.
Every week is marked by a Sabbath that notes not only the end of the week passed but the beginning of a new one. It is both a reminder of seven full days passed out of our life – so soon! – as well as the opportunity to make the next period fuller, more meaningful, a reason for being.
Every month is marked by a Rosh Chodesh, the consecration of the new beginning of yet another lunar cycle. The wheel of heaven has revolved yet another thirty days – so soon! – and we are that much older. The L-rd now gives us another month to prove that we are also that much wiser. It is not only another month, it is a new month. Above all, it is called Rosh Chodesh, the "head" of the month. Is there perhaps here a hint to see how much wisdom has filled our heads during the mistakes and sins of the past one…?
And every year has its Rosh Hashana, that peculiarly Jewish day in which there are no parties and drinking and abandonment of restraint; in which there is no hilarious laughter and noise that is a frantic and frenetic attempt to convince all (and oneself) that he is happy; there is no frantic clutching at pleasure before it escapes and – worse - before I pass on; too soon, too soon. There is Rosh Hashana, the time past. Another year gone by – already? So soon! – and it is a time to see what the gray hairs and the added wrinkles and the slower reflexes have taught us. Rosh Hashana is one step closer to the gateway out of this world and into the next one. It is a time to rehearse the speech that we will make – all of us – some day, before the Supremest of Courts, as we attempt to explain the meaning of our lives below.
Life is too short for fools. It is too long for those who know it was not given for happiness (if that comes, how wonderful, but how often does it appear, only in insignificant measures and at rare times, as drops of rain that fall on a parched desert leaving no impact, changing nothing so that the traveler never knows it fell). Life was given for holiness and sanctity, so that we might rise above ourselves; so that we might consecrate and hallow that animalism within us that threatens at every moment to escape and express itself in selfishness, ego and greed – sins that are themselves only the corridors to the crimes of cruelty and hurting others. Life is not a happy thing – it is a beautiful thing, and when one becomes the artist and artisan of that beauty that is called holiness, when one practices the supreme holiness that comes of loving and giving of oneself.
"Ani l'dodi v'dodi li…" "I am my beloved's and my beloved is mine…" the words of the greatest of love poems, Song of Songs; great because it is that purest of love, between the Almighty and the House of Israel. Consider them, for do they not contain the essence and the secret of true love? "I am my beloved's and my beloved is mine." When I am my beloved's, when I give to her and give of myself and live to do for her and make her happy – then I am guaranteed that she is mine for she will, in turn, be doing the same for me. The lovers who think of giving to each other must receive from each other. This is love, this desire to give, this desire to sacrifice and do for the other.
Not for nothing was the Song of Songs called by the incomparable Rabbi Akiva, "the Holy of Holies" of all the books of the Bible. For the kind of love expressed in it IS holiness. Holiness is to escape from the selfishness and greed of the animal; it is to smash the passions and desires of the ego; it is to master the will that makes man seek only his own gratification. And is not love just that, in practice? Is not love exactly that, if it is true love?
And not for no reason did the rabbis see in the Hebrew letters of the month of Elul the first letters of "Ani l'dodi v'dodi li – I am my beloved's and my beloved is mine." Elul is the month of Tshuva, return and introspection. It is the month of scraping away the ego that has settled and crusted on our hearts and souls. If Passover calls for searching out he leaven in the home, Elul decrees removing it – the yeasty and bloated ego – from the soul. It is a time to note the calendar, the graying and aging, and to realize: Not for nonsense was I born and not with nonsense must they bury me.
Be good. Love. Love selflessly; cease speaking evil, cease thinking evil; cease searching out evil in your fellow human beings. Cease seeking to grow at the expense of others. For one who climbs on top of the man he has just chopped down is not taller. He is the same dwarf standing on his victim's height. Be wary lest you hurt the one you love. Think before you act towards the other person. Be good as a person, as an individual, and your part of the world will become holy. Then, if others emulate you, the world will suddenly and automatically turn beautiful and hallowed. It is Elul. Think of your beloved – all the people of the earth – and think of your particular beloved. Give of yourself and you will receive that which no amount of grasping and scheming can ever bring you: self-respect. Love the other and you will learn to like yourself. Be holy, for the One who made you is Holy and for this He placed you on this earth. It is another Elul, yet another one. How many more are left?
See you tomorrow -Yom Kippur is over now the fun holday of Succout will start.. more information over the next few days
Love Yehuda Lave
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