Yehuda Lave is an author, journalist, psychologist, rabbi, spiritual teacher and coach, with degrees in business, psychology and Jewish Law. He works with people from all walks of life and helps them in their search for greater happiness, meaning, business advice on saving money, and spiritual engagement
From on high may they plead merit for them (our hosts) and for us ... and may we find favor and understanding in the eyes of God and man (Grace After Meals)
We all wish to be liked and appreciated. What is the best road to popularity?
Some people are "people pleasers." They do things for others to earn their favor and affection. While it is certainly commendable to do things for others, "buying" their affection should not be the motivation. Furthermore, there are times when we are not able to fulfill a particular request that someone may make of us. If we force ourselves because we are afraid that our refusal may result in losing the other person's friendship, we may resent what we do. This process is counterproductive; doing acts of kindness should not result in resentment.
All we need to be liked and appreciated is to have a sincere attitude of caring for others. A benevolent attitude will translate itself into benevolent deeds. This "intangible" will be felt by other people, even when we are unable to do anything for them.
In the above prayer, we ask God to bless our hosts and to consider them meritorious. Showing this benevolent attitude is sufficient for us to find favor in the eyes of both God and others.
Today I shall ... ... try to cultivate feelings of sincere concern for others, and pray for their well-being just as I pray for my own.
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AS HEARD FROM RABBI AVIGDOR MILLER Z'TL
"Avadeem hayeenu l'pharoh b'misrayeem" We were slaves to Pharaoh in Misrayeem (Pesach Haggadah) The son has just completed asking the four questions and now the father begins his obligation to tell the Haggadah to his children. "My son, you are asking, why we do certain things?" Now this question is not only four questions, it's 613 questions.
Why we do all the laws of the Torah and in each law there are many questions. And there is one answer to all of them. "We were slaves to Pharaoh in Misrayeem and when they gave us any orders we couldn't ask questions why we have to do this. If you asked a question they knocked out your teeth. And then Hashem took us out .
And so, we exchanged one master for another. Instead of being forced to do things which are not for our benefit, now you are being forced to do what is for your benefit. All the Misvot are for your benefit. Although the obeying of Misvot is not contingent upon knowing reasons, however there is a reason: the reason for everything is "We were slaves to Pharaoh in Misrayeem" and Hashem took us out.
Because of that we are so full of love to Hashem. We are so grateful to Him, that we'll do whatever He'll tell us. So, the reason we do Misvot is because Hashem took us out of Misrayeem. That's the basic fundamental reason for obeying the Torah. When Hashem began speaking to us on Har Sinai He said, "I am Hashem your G-d Who took you out of Misrayeem." He brought us out with a Mighty Arm, which means that Hashem turned all of nature upside down for us by bringing Ten Plagues on Misrayeem. There never was such a time and there will never be such a time until the end of days.
A person must obey the dictates of a decent conscience. And a decent conscience says 'be grateful'. You have to be grateful to everybody, if not you are lacking in the attributes of humanity. Gratitude to Hashem supersedes every other form of gratitude. Quoted from "The Making of a Nation"
The very complicated and important Parasah this week
General Overview: This week's reading, Metzora, discusses the purification process for one who contracts "tzara'at" (skin maladies which are contracted as a result of engaging in forbidden gossip), and the symptoms and laws of "house tzara'at," indicated by certain brick discolorations. Following is a discussion of various ritual impurities, including the laws of the menstruating woman.
First Aliyah: The Torah reading begins with a description of the purification procedure for a person who contracted tzara'at. After the priest determines that the tzara'at has been healed, a ceremony involving two birds, a cedar plank, a scarlet thread and water from a live stream, is used for the initial stage of the purification. The individual also shaves his entire body. After a seven day wait, the person shaves again, and brings three animals and an oil offering to the Temple.
Second Aliyah: The priest processes the offerings in the manner prescribed in this section. With this the purification process is completed.
Third Aliyah: If the individual suffering from tzara'at cannot afford the above sacrifices, two birds can be substituted for two of the animals. This section describes the slightly different purification process reserved for the impoverished person.
Fourth Aliyah: Homes, too, can be afflicted with tzara'at. If bricks on a home become discolored -- acquiring a strong red or green pigment -- a priest is summoned. If indeed the discoloration seems to be tzara'at, the priest quarantines the home for up to three weeks. Depending on the spread of the discoloration, the home is either declared to be pure, or the specific bricks are removed from the house, or, in the most extreme situations, the house is demolished. The Torah then describes the purification process for such a home -- which is very similar to the initial stage of the purification of the human afflicted with tzara'at (described in the First Aliyah).
Fifth Aliyah: After concluding the subject of tzara'at, the Torah discusses the ritual impurity of a man who issues a sickly and unnatural seminal discharge, as well as the method by which this person attains purity when the condition passes.
Sixth Aliyah: This section discusses the ritual impurity contracted by a man who issues a (normal) seminal discharge, the ritual impurity of a menstruating woman, and of a man who cohabits with her. All such people must immerse in a mikvah (ritual pool) in order to be purified.
Seventh Aliyah: Under certain circumstances a menstruating woman was required to bring to the Temple two bird offerings in order to attain purity. These sacrifices are described in this section.
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