The distinction between pain and suffering is as follows: If we are able to find meaning in pain, then we do not suffer. If we are unable to find meaning in pain, then it becomes overwhelming and we call that feeling of being overwhelmed "suffering."
"The simple ability to put pain into a meaningful context enables us to cope with it. Nietzsche said, "A man can deal with any what, as long as he has a good enough why."
"A child, for example, cuts his finger and screams the house down. An adult cuts his finger and gets on with life. Children live in the here and now, so a child has no context for his pain. There is no meaningful future to look forward to, just the immediacy of the pain. An adult realizes that the pain will pass and life will be good again in spite it. He doesn't suffer. And, by the way, why is it that when you hug and kiss a child the pain seems to go? It's not the pain that goes, it's the suffering. You have given the child a meaningful context for the pain - the context of a parent's love. The child still feels the pain, but with a new-found context for it, he no longer suffers.
"An adult must find his own meaning in his pain. Sometimes it is obvious, as in the case of a woman in labor. Sometimes it is a little harder. But when he or she can look at the pain as a means to grow, a means to develop deeper self-understanding, then the pain remains, but the suffering will be forgotten.
"Everyone goes through pain in life. But not one of us has to suffer if we do not want to.
"Again, the choice is ours."
Love Yehuda Lave
Here's a special "thank you" to George Abrahams for sending this fascinating collection of "before" and "after" images of Manhattan and Brooklyn (with a 140-year intervening time span) called The George Bradford Brainerd Project by photographer Jordan Liles. Move your cursor back and forth over the images to see
"before" and "after."
- The George Bradford Brainerd Project <http://www.jordanliles.com/george>
- Created by Jordan Liles <http://www.jordanliles.com/george>
- View The Images <http://www.jordanliles.com/george/images>
- 15 Facts About George <http://www.jordanliles.com/george/facts>
- Watch The Video <http://www.jordanliles.com/george/video>
All of George Brainerd's images were captured between 1872 and 1887. Jordan Liles shot all present day images between August 2013 and April 2014. Many of the images required going back several times to get the best possible results. The following factors played into the difficulty of matching before and after shots:
* Position of the camera
* Height of the camera from the ground
* Aiming of the lens
* Type of lens
* Possibility that Brainerd's image was flipped horizontally during the archiving process
If you're on a desktop computer, move your mouse cursor over and away from the images to see before and after. If you're on a mobile device, touch and let go. If it's not changing back, touch anywhere outside the image. Still having issues? Contact Jordan Liles at <http://www.jordanliles.com/contact/> .
And now, presenting the photographs comparing 140 years of change, and be sure to see the video <http://www.jordanliles.com/george/video> too.
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