Consulting For Encouragement
What you subjectively believe about events and your abilities is the way you perceive reality. If you consult someone who merely points out what is negative, you are likely to become discouraged.
Someone who has the talent to point out your strengths and what is positive about your situation will give you encouragement to spur you on to greater achievements.
Love Yehuda Lave
Liu Di Plays With Proportions Between The Animate and Inanimate.
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by Aleeza Ben Shalom
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15 Ways to Show Someone You're InterestedWithout looking like a stalker!
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The 15th of Av is a day of love in the Jewish calendar. To mark this occasion let's speak about different ways to show you're interested in someone. It's not easy being the first one to make a move, open up or be vulnerable. Even when you are bold and try to make something happen, you may be turned down more often than you like.
Michael Jordan was quoted saying, "I've failed over and over again in my life, and that's why I succeed." He goes on to say, "I can accept failure, but I can't accept not trying." These are important thoughts to keep in mind when showing interest in someone new.
1. Ask them out
6. Power of the pen (or the iPad)
7. Speak well of the person you're dating
8. Show up for a surprise visit
9. Be present
10. Ask for advice
11. Eye contact
12. Open up in the right time
14. Be respectful
15. Speak up!
Showing someone you're interested puts you in a vulnerable position. You may not know if your feelings will be returned, but that's a calculated risk you'll need to take. Remember that despite the electronic networks that keep us distantly connected, we all crave real connection, adoration and companionship. So even if the feelings aren't mutual, I hope the person you are with will handle your vulnerable state with care.
When you find someone who seems worth the effort, show your interest in a clear way that is likely to lead you to another date. Waiting for someone to make the first move might feel safer but it won't get you want you want. Muster the courage to do something outside your comfort zone.
How do you like to be shown someone is interested in you? I know you've got some great ideas too. Happy Tu B'Av!