We all have a constant flow of thoughts and mental pictures in our minds.
These mental creations have a tremendous impact on how we feel, what we say and how we say it, and what we do and don't do it.
People who are self-confident have very different mental pictures and thoughts than people who lack self-confidence. People who feel very insecure feel that way because of what they say to themselves and what they picture about the past and the future. When they upgrade their self-talk and their mental images, they experience life very differently.
Love Yehuda Lave
Five feel good children stories:
1. A four-year-old child, whose next door neighbor was an elderly gentleman, who had recently lost his wife. Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old Gentleman's' yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there. When his mother asked him what he had said to the neighbor, the little boy just said, 'Nothing, I just Helped him cry.'
2. Teacher Debbie Moon's first graders were discussing a picture of a family. One little boy in the picture had a different hair color than the other members. One of her students suggested that he was adopted. A little girl said, 'I know all about Adoption, I was adopted..' 'What does it mean to be adopted?', asked another child. 'It means', said the girl, 'that you grew in your mommy's heart instead of her tummy!'
3. On my way home one day, I stopped to watch a Little League base ball game that was being played in a park near my home. As I sat down behind the bench on the first- base line, I asked one of the boys what the score was 'We're behind 14 to nothing,' he answered With a smile. 'Really,' I said. 'I have to say you don't look very discouraged.' 'Discouraged?', the boy asked with a Puzzled look on his face... 'Why should we be discouraged? We haven't Been up to bat yet.'
4. Whenever I'm disappointed with my spot in life, I stop and think about little Jamie Scott. Jamie was trying out for a part in the school play. His mother told me that he'd set his heart on being in it, though she feared he would not be chosen.. On the day the parts were awarded, I went with her to collect him after school. Jamie rushed up to her, eyes shining with pride and excitement.. 'Guess what, Mom,' he shouted, and then said those words that will remain a lesson to me....'I've been chosen to clap and cheer.'
5. An eye witness account from New York City , on a cold day in December, some years ago: A little boy, about 10-years-old, was standing before a shoe store on the roadway, barefooted, peering through the window, and shivering With cold. A lady approached the young boy and said, 'My, but you're in such deep thought staring in that window!' 'I was asking God to give me a pair of shoes,' was the boy's reply.
The lady took him by the hand, went into the store, and asked the clerk to get half a dozen pairs of socks for the boy. She then asked if he could give her a basin of water and a towel. He quickly brought them to her. She took the little fellow to the back part of the store and, removing her gloves, knelt down, washed his little feet, and dried them with the towel.
By this time, the clerk had returned with the socks.. Placing a pair upon the boy's feet, she purchased him a pair of shoes.. She tied up the remaining pairs of socks and gave them to him.
She patted him on the head and said, 'No doubt, you will be more comfortable now..' As she turned to go, the astonished kid caught her by the hand, and looking up into her face, with tears in his eyes, asked her: 'Are you God's wife?'
Caroline Glick speaks up
This lady has got it right!Shalom
The pocket-sized spy drone that can fly through windows
The Pocket Flyer, developed in Massachusetts, will carry a panoramic camera that provides a 360-degree view from the drone.
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20 September 2014
Phyllis Diller isms
As your beauty fades, so will his eyesight.
Housework can't kill you, but why take a chance?
Cleaning your house while your kids are still growing up
is like shoveling the walk before it stops snowing.
The reason women don't play football
is because 11 of them would never wear the same outfit in public.
Best way to get rid of kitchen odors: Eat out.
A bachelor is a guy who never made the same mistake once.
I want my children to have all the things I couldn't afford.
Then I want to move in with them.
Most children threaten at times to run away from home.
This is the only thing that keeps some parents going.
Any time three New Yorkers get into a cab without an argument,
a bank has just been robbed.
We spend the first twelve months of our children's lives
teaching them to walk and talk and the next twelve years
telling them to sit down and shut up.
Burt Reynolds once asked me out. I was in his room.
What I don't like about office Christmas parties . . .
is looking for a job the next day.
The only time I ever enjoyed ironing . . .
was the day I accidentally poured gin in the steam iron.
His finest hour lasted a minute and a half.
Old age is when the liver spots show through your gloves.
My photographs don't do me justice - they look just like me.
I admit, I have a tremendous sex drive.
My boyfriend lives forty miles away.
Tranquilizers work only if you follow the advice on the bottle:
Keep Away From Children.
I asked the waiter, 'Is this milk fresh?'
He said, 'Lady, three hours ago it was grass.'
The reason the golf pro tells you to keep your head down . . .
is so you can't see him laughing.
You know you're old if they have discontinued your blood type.
4 Lessons Entrepreneurs Can Take From the Kids Going Back to School
Posted: 20 Sep 2014 06:23 PM PDT
The back-to-school period tends to evoke mixed emotions among children but the lessons of heading back to school after a prolonged absence are applicable to nearly everyone, especially entrepreneurs.
1. We crave structure. Every school year starts the same. The kids try to hold on to summer as long as they can but as soon as the Labor Day barbeque start to fizzle out, they know that nothing is going to stop "Back to School" (especially not their parents). As much as they complain about starting school, something amazing happens. Deep down, they actually enjoy it.
Why? Because kids need structure. Sure, hanging out all day may seem more fun but having a structured day actually is. Research shows that we find more pleasure in being productive than in being passive. We actually enjoy a structured day of school more than an unstructured day at the beach.
Entrepreneurs are notoriously unstructured. For many, the lure to leave the traditional job is entrepreneurship's lack of structure but to be successful, and truly happy, you need to go "back to school." You need to make sure there is sufficient structure in your day.
Look at your day to see when you can add structure. Are you getting to the office in a timely manner? Do you have set times to answer emails? Are the meetings in your office haphazard or is there an order? Adding structure adds efficiency, productivity and ultimate success.
2. Being comfortable in the uncomfortable. This year, my youngest took a school bus for the first time. He sat in the steps waiting for his bus to come and eagerly ran up to it. When he climbed the stairs, however, his smile dropped as he looked around to a bus full of boys who he didn't know and back to his parents, the only safety net he had, waving behind closing doors. My wife saw his face and tried to get on the bus with him so he wouldn't be alone but I, as his father, insisted that he would be fine. He would learn how to ride the bus like everyone else.
For many, "back to school" is uncomfortable. New schools, new kids and new environments. But we all know that being uncomfortable is part of the growth process. It's totally acceptable and appropriate to get jitters and butterflies, as long as it doesn't stop us. Staying home is never an option.
Entrepreneurs sometimes stop making themselves feel uncomfortable. It's uncomfortable to discuss a poor review with an employee. It's uncomfortable to go back to an investor with poor results and ask for more money. It's uncomfortable to attend networking events when you are naturally introverted.
Successful people have learned to get comfortable with the uncomfortable. Only when they pushed past their comfort zone did they grow and succeed.
3. Respecting book knowledge. It's amazing how much schooling our kids get. Every day they are bombarded with classes and subjects, essays and projects, because knowledge is important. Math, science and social studies may not feel important to the student, but as parents we understand just how critical an education is.
Many entrepreneurs do not allocate time for reading or learning. The day is too busy and they feel comfortable relying on their "street knowledge." However, knowledge gleaned from reading is critical for your eventual leadership and success. Some of the greatest leaders have allocated time to reading and learning.
Jeff Bezos has his executives read certain books and then uses them as a framework for sketching out the future of the company. He hosts three all-day book clubs with Amazon's top executives. JP Morgan CEO Jamie Dimon would send his interns a list of his 25 favorite books. Berkshire-Hathaway CEO Warren Buffett, in Berkshire-Hathaway's annual report, recommends his favorite books to investors some. We can't afford to stop learning when we graduate school.
4. The value of recovery. Entrepreneurs are notoriously obsessed with always working. We tend to see life as a marathon. Every day, we hit the grind and its day in and day out. We are rarely off, taking our work home with us and being electronically connected to the office always.
Now there is a lot of value in consistency. But greatness requires something different. It's the ability to sprint. To focus and go at something hard and strong. To go "all in" on a project or deadline. To put all your eggs into a basket and prepare to leap, and perhaps fail, to achieve your dream.
But a sprinter needs time off in between sprints. If you would sprint for the length of a marathon you would die or, at least, feel as overwhelmed as most of us feel.
Schools have seasons. Summer is off. Holidays are off. Weekends are off. Evenings are off. Its structured to be a marathon, not a sprint. There are periods of intensity followed by periods of recovery.
Jim Loher and Tony Schwartz conducted extensive research with regards to athletic success. The concluded that the enemy of high performance is not stress. Stress is actually the stimulus for growth. Rather, the obstacle to success is the absence of recovery. Lack of recovery time leads to burn out and breakdown that ultimately undermines performance.
Recovery time means that you can't always be everywhere. It reminds us that we are human, that we are here to do our best but we need time to pause and regroup. Take a page out of the back-to-school and realize that you don't have to be in school all the time to be successful.
It's important for all of us to remember that we don't have to be a student to gain the benefits of "back to school."
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