You feel sad when you keep your mind focused on negative things. Your thoughts are the cause of your unhappiness.
You have a large choice of what to think about. Instead of causing yourself sadness, focus on happiness-producing thoughts.
Imagine that you have a tape recorder and are choosing between two tapes. One will make you happy and cheerful, while the other will make you sad and miserable. Only a fool would choose the tape that causes suffering.
Your mind is constantly playing tapes. It is always your choice between self-statements and thoughts that that will make you happy and cheerful, and those that will cause you misery. Consistently choose positive thoughts and you will live a happy life.
Although we can choose our thoughts, dates play into our life. Last Friday 3/3 was my Mother's English birthday. She passed away five years ago now. I choose to remember her positive points and how she loved her children. It is of course sad to remember some one no longer with us, but choose happy thoughts.
Love Yehuda Lave
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Marriage is tough on men, women, and children. Living with another person for years in the same house while facing the challenges of raising children, financing your life, working and dealing with health problems is never easy. So if you want a rock solid marriage, one that will go the long haul - read these words of advice carefully, and write them on your heart
1. Always remember what drew you to each other in the first place.
2. Make a written and recorded commitment that divorce is not an option.
3. Say I love you to one another every day.
4. Give a hug or kiss every day.
5. Do not withhold intercourse unless by mutual consent or special circumstances!
6. Enjoy at least one date night a week, and go above and beyond to make it special.
7. Become each others best friend.
8. Let no one get involved with your marital affairs, including parents, in-laws, and friends!
9. Exercise and work out together.
10. Put then your marriage first, then your children, then your extended family, then everything else, in that order.
11. Become transparent with one another.
12. Set boundaries for your marriage. It's important that you both know what you can and cannot do.
13. Put aside your pride and ego – the winner of the argument is usually the loser!
14. Make their favorite meal.
15. Do things your spouse loves without basing it on their performance.
16. Don't go tit for tat. Learn to let go.
17. Don't let the sun go down while you angry – in other words, try to resolve the issue asap.
18. Create a fellowship of friends, and be around other happily married couples, they will remind you what's good about relationships.
19. Plan and surprise your spouse with romantic vacations as your budget allows.
20. Live a healthy lifestyle.
21. Don't keep any bank accounts hidden from one another.
22. Don't lie to each other. A hard truth is always better than an easy lie.
23. Do not entertain any relationship with ex-spouses or ex-boyfriends/girlfriends from your past. If children are involved, the relationship should be limited to them.
24. Spend some type of quality time with your spouse.
25. Invest in your marriage – do a marriage retreat at least twice a year.
26. If faith is a big part of your life, read your holy book together and discuss God's plan for marriage.
27. Renew your vows – remember your promise to your spouse at the altar – for better or worse, in sickness and in health.
28. Be ready to make many sacrifices – doing things you may not feel like doing.
29. Be ready to make compromises.
30. Listen to your spouse's guidance.
31. If your marriage is on the rocks, don't wait to get counseling.
32. Hear one another out.
33. Try to resolve problems and issues when you're both calm.
34. Instead of trying to be right, always look for the solution that brings peace.
35. Do NOT use sarcasm. It never leads to anything good.
36. Tell your spouse you can't live without them.
37. If you know you did wrong, be ready to make things right.
38. Be ready to apologize and be ready to forgive when the situation arises.
39. Fight for your marriage!
40. Understand that you need the love of your spouse and they need yours.
41. Keep good company around you. You want people who can encourage and uplift you. When you feel good it's easier to invest in the relationship.
42. Husbands, help out around the house. Remember that your wife is a helpmate, but that doesn't mean she does everything.
43. Wives, encourage your husband, give them praise. It strengthens them.
44. Find out your strengths and weaknesses and be ready to help one another with where you are weak.
45. Support each other's goals and dreams. No matter which has the "bigger" or "more ambitious" goal.
46. Always consult one another when making big decisions.
47. Give compliments to one another.
48. Understand that the neighbor's grass isn't greener, you just have to water your own lawn more.
49. Don't compare your marriage to someone else's – you don't know what is going on behind closed doors.
50. Watch what you let affect your mood or cloud your thoughts. Today's reality shows, our society's view, and what you see on TV are not good examples of marriage. Find your own path.
51. Never embarrass your spouse in public – deal with your issues in private.
52. If needed, seek marital counseling, it can help.
53. Do not verbally abuse your spouse.
54. Do not physically abuse your spouse.
55. Do not bring up your past arguments and disagreements just to win a current one. You may win, but the bitterness you create will be much worse in the long run.
56. Never bring up or use something in an argument your spouse told you in confidence about themselves.
57. Let your spouse know you can be trusted.
58. Don't give your spouse any reason to feel insecure.
59. Read books on becoming a better husband.
60. Read books on becoming a better spouse. It's always good to get new ideas.
61. Learn the signs with which your spouse expresses their love. We each have our own way of showing affection.
62. Always be in a learning process with getting to know your spouses likes and dislikes.
63. If you are people of faith, go to a religious bookstore or your church and invest in marriage counseling materials.
64. Try not to let your children see you in disagreement or arguing.
65. Husbands, surprise her with roses and the like, not just for birthdays, holidays, and anniversary, but just because.
66. Wives, your husbands love surprises too. Put on one of his favorite nighties, just because.
67. Don't always try to get your way, but try to find a way that works for both of you.
68. Alone time – yes it's needed, but don't go overboard. Let your spouse know you're thinking of them.
69. It is healthy to spend some of your time with friends, so long as they respect your marriage and the commitment you took.
70. Never cheat. This goes without saying.
71. Never try to justify a wrong. Apologize and take responsibility.
72. Stay fit and look your best for your husband or wife.
73. Hear your spouse out before jumping to conclusions.
74. Don't keep your spouse in the dark about things.
75. Never badmouth your spouse to anyone.
76. Keep your love life between the two of you.
77. Don't let single girlfriends or guy friends do anything to compromise your marriage.
78. Open your spouse up to new things that are healthy for him or her.
79. Be open to new things, allow your spouse the chance to treat you like a king or queen.
80. Communicate – he or she cannot read your mind
81. Say what you mean, mean what you say.
82. Take your time to cool off, but when you start acting like roommates your marriage is in trouble.
83. Love, respect, loyalty, and faithfulness should all be a given.
84. Have a vision and purpose for your marriage.
85. Keep in mind your spouse is not your enemy but your best friend.
86. Don't look at marriage as an obligation but as a chance to love your significant other unconditionally.
87. Our character should reflect the fruits of spirit, love, patience, and kindness.
88. Your objective should not be to change your spouse, but for your spouse to see your change.
89. You can't change your spouse, but you can change how you love them and how you react to them.
90. Your objective should be to make your spouse a better person as a result of being with you, not by control, but by love.
91. Husbands, make love to her mind during the day and the rest will follow.
92. Wives, spend time encouraging him and supporting him and there is nothing you won't happily get.
93. Don't focus on your spouse's weakness, focus on their strengths.
94. Work as a team.
95. Ask your significant other for areas they can improve in.
96. Ask your significant other if there are any needs going unmet.
97. Take showers and baths together.
98. Leave love notes around the house.
99. Look into their eyes, touch their face, and give thanks to him or her who puts up with you during the good and bad times.