Friday, July 7, 2017

Aussie woman refuses husband’s Jewish divorce/ Orthodox man sues in a secular court to force his wife to accept a legal religious divorce according to Jewish lawBy Josefin Dolsten

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Be Happy as a Lark

Although humans have a tremendous advantage over animals, you can still learn from animals. They have no worries or anxieties about the future. When you see a bird, dog, cat, fly, or bee, tell yourself, "Let me learn from this creature to live in the present." Learn from these beasts and free yourself from needless thoughts about the future!

It may seem a bit humiliating to have to learn from an animal or insect. But it's even more humiliating not to learn from them!

You know the old joke. It says an elephant never fogets, but of course what does an elepahant have to remember? No phone number, driver's licences or password to remember!


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Aussie woman refuses husband's Jewish divorce Orthodox man sues in a secular court to force his wife to accept a legal religious divorce according to Jewish law By Josefin Dolsten

The plight of "agunot," Jewish women whose husbands refuse to grant them a divorce, is well known. There are organizations, social media campaigns and movies that address the issue.

Less familiar is the reverse — Jewish men whose wives won't cooperate in divorce proceedings.

According to Jewish law, in order for a Jewish married couple to divorce, the husband must issue the wife a writ of divorce, called a get, and the wife must accept it. Both must do so of their own volition or they cannot remarry.

In Australia, an Orthodox Jewish man sued recently in a secular court to force his wife to receive his get.

The couple had gotten a civil divorce after 15 years of marriage, but the wife was refusing to come to Sydney's Jewish religious court, or beit din, to complete the religious divorce proceedings, The Australian reported Wednesday. The husband, who was identified in court records only as Mr. Idelsohn, asked the family court to withhold the wife's property settlement — about $760,000 — until she agreed to accept his get.

But the court declined to become involved in a religious matter, citing a prohibition in the country's Constitution.

There's a reason cases like these tend to stick out: They are much less common.

"The trend that you see with get refusal either way might be similar to trends of domestic abuse in that most people who are the offenders with domestic abuse tend to be the men, and the same is true for the get," said Sharon Weiss-Greenberg, executive director of the Jewish Orthodox Feminist Association.

Another group, the Organization for the Resolution of Agunot, or ORA, helps both men and women whose spouses won't grant them a divorce. In the vast majority of cases ORA sees — 98 percent — women are seeking redress from recalcitrant men.

"One thing that we've seen is that even though it can happen in the other direction, it's been very rare for us," managing director Keshet Starr told JTA.

Granted, both organizations are largely known for their work with women. Still, Jewish law doesn't treat men and women dealing with a recalcitrant spouse the same.

Men have a recourse available to them should their wives refuse to cooperate with divorce proceedings — a legal remedy called "heter meah rabbanim," meaning the permission of a hundred rabbis. The loophole, which is not available to women, allows a man whose wife won't or can't receive his get to go through with the divorce by obtaining the support of 100 rabbis.

Many rabbinic courts are reluctant to use the loophole, Starr said, but its availability lowered the stakes for husbands whose wives are uncooperative in divorce proceedings.

"On one hand, if a husband is trying to do things in an above-board, legitimate way, the heter meah rabbanim isn't such a great alternative," Starr said. "However, it is an option that is there that can be obtained, so I think because of that the threat of a husband saying 'I'm not going to issue a get' to his wife is fundamentally different than a wife telling her husband 'I'm not going to receive your get.'"

Women also face consequences with regard to having children. If a married woman has a child with a man other than her husband — regardless of whether she is trying to get a divorce — the child is considered a mamzer, a term loosely translated as bastard. Jewish law places severe restrictions on marriage for mamzers, such that they may not wed most members of the Jewish community. The child of a married man and an unmarried woman other than his wife is not considered a mamzer, and thus a man whose wife refuses to accept his get does not need to worry about the Jewish legal status of his children.

Still, the system allows abuse from both sides.

"Anyone who is abusive can take advantage of it either way," Weiss-Greenberg said.

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2,000 Jews Pray at Joseph's Tomb Overnight Thursday 6/29

Some 2,000 Jewish worshipers entered the tomb of Joseph the Righteous in Shechem early Thursday morning, with the approval of the IDF and its security, Hakol Hayehudi reported.

Joseph's Tomb is located in Area B, according to the Oslo accords, where the PA is the municipal sovereign while the IDF is in charge of security. In the past, group of Jews who visited the holy site without IDF permission were arrested.

But this time Jewish entry was approved, in honor of Joseph's yahrzeit—except that the yahrzeit fell on Sunday, Tammuz 1, and the IDF requested that the celebration be delayed until well past the Muslim holiday of Eid al-Fitr at the end of Ramadan, so as not to upset the Arabs with the presence of so many Jews.

As it turned out, the respectful delay didn't help at all, and throughout the night dozens of Arabs threw stones at IDF soldiers who guarded the entrance to the holy site, and the Jews inside. They also threw Molotov cocktails. So this respect thing remains one-sided.

Incidentally, on Sunday morning, some 20 Breslover Chassidim were arrested and beaten by Palestinian Authority police when they attempted to enter Joseph's Tomb, according to the legal aid society Honenu. The physically abused men were then turned over to the IDF and Israeli police.

So, in conclusion, that part of how a future Palestinian State would take care of everyone's religious rights, it still needs some work.

Also, if 2,000 Jews demanded entry into the Temple Mount one day, who knows, they might get to daven Shachris there, unmolested.

A Love Song For Jerusalem - The Portnoy Brothers

Having moved to Jerusalem from Manchester, (UK) almost a decade ago, we felt a deep connection to this incredible city and on her 50th year celebration of her unification, we decided it was about time to release a special dedication

"He is a veterinarian

One Sunday, when counting the money in the weekly offering, the Pastor of a small church found a pink envelope containing $1,000. It happened again the next week! 

The following Sunday, he watched as the offering was collected and saw an elderly woman put the distinctive pink envelope on the plate. This went on for weeks until the pastor, overcome by curiosity, approached her. 


"Ma'am, I couldn't help but notice that you put $1,000 a week in the collection plate," he stated. 

"Why yes," she replied, "every week my son sends me money and I give some of it to the church." 

The pastor replied, "That's wonderful. But $1,000 is a lot, are you sure you can afford this? How much does he send you?"


The elderly woman answered, "$10,000 a week." 

The pastor was amazed. "Your son is very successful; what does he do for a living?" 

"He is a veterinarian," she answered. 

"That's an honorable profession, but I had no idea they made that much money," the pastor said. "Where does he practice?" 

The woman answered proudly, "In Nevada. He has two cathouses - one in Las Vegas, and one in Reno."


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