Thursday, December 31, 2009

Once in a Blue Moon on New Year's Eve and Just Pause and Happy New Year--see you next year

"Be always at war with your vices, at peace with your neighbors, and let each new year find you a better man."
-- Benjamin Franklin

Just Pause

Being impulsive causes many mistakes and errors. Doing things impulsively will cause loss, damage, and harm. Saying things impulsively will cause you to say things better left unsaid. Thinking before you speak will enable you to think of the best way to say something. Thinking before you take action will enable you to consider whether you should do something, and how to do it if you should.

The two words that will remind you to stop and think are, "Just pause." As you pause, think to yourself, "What is the wisest thing for me to say and do now?"

Practice building the association in your mind between, "Just pause," and, "What is the wisest thing for me to say and do now?" How do you build the association? It's quite easy. You just repeat these two sentences together a number of times. Repeat them with an upbeat tone of voice, or sing them with your own tune. Enjoy the process. This way you will access positive feelings when you recall this association in "real life."

Love Yehuda

Rare New Year's Eve 'blue moon' to ring in 2010

LOS ANGELES – Once in a blue moon there is one on New Year's Eve. Revelers ringing in 2010 will be treated to a so-called blue moon. According to popular definition, a blue moon is the second full moon in a month. But don't expect it to be blue — the name has nothing to do with the color of our closest celestial neighbor.

A full moon occurred on Dec. 2. It will appear again on Thursday in time for the New Year's countdown.

"If you're in Times Square, you'll see the full moon right above you. It's going to be that brilliant," said Jack Horkheimer, director emeritus of the Miami Space Transit Planetarium and host of a weekly astronomy TV show.

The New Year's Eve blue moon will be visible in the United States, Canada, Europe, South America and Africa. For partygoers in Australia and Asia, the full moon does not show up until New Year's Day, making January a blue moon month for them.

However, the Eastern Hemisphere can celebrate with a partial lunar eclipse on New Year's Eve when part of the moon enters the Earth's shadow. The eclipse will not be visible in the Americas.

A full moon occurs every 29.5 days, and most years have 12. On average, an extra full moon in a month — a blue moon — occurs every 2.5 years. The last time there was a lunar double take was in May 2007. New Year's Eve blue moons are rarer, occurring every 19 years. The last time was in 1990; the next one won't come again until 2028.

Blue moons have no astronomical significance, said Greg Laughlin, an astronomer at the University of California, Santa Cruz.

"`Blue moon' is just a name in the same sense as a `hunter's moon' or a `harvest moon,'" Laughlin said in an e-mail.

The popular definition of blue moon came about after a writer for Sky & Telescope magazine in 1946 misinterpreted the Maine Farmer's Almanac and labeled a blue moon as the second full moon in a month. In fact, the almanac defined a blue moon as the third full moon in a season with four full moons, not the usual three.

Though Sky & Telescope corrected the error decades later, the definition caught on. For purists, however, this New Year's Eve full moon doesn't even qualify as a blue moon. It's just the first full moon of the winter season.

In a tongue-in-cheek essay posted on the magazine's Web site this week, senior contributing editor Kelly Beatty wrote: "If skies are clear when I'm out celebrating, I'll take a peek at that brilliant orb as it rises over the Boston skyline to see if it's an icy shade of blue. Or maybe I'll just howl."


Wednesday, December 30, 2009

One crazy woodpecker! and 10 practical guidelines for positive speech--these pictures will work!! Happy New Year

GOOD MORNING! The other day I was speaking with a friend who tended to punctuate his speech with earthy, coarse words. I said to him, "You are such a good neshama (soul) and such an elevated, educated person. Such words do not reflect who you really are." He thought for a moment and said, "You're right. I'll stop using them."

One of the distinguishing features of human beings from other species is that we can talk. And one of the distinguishing features amongst human beings is how we use the gift of speech. Do we speak in an elevated manner or in a crass manner? They way we speak says a lot about us - who we are, how we perceive ourselves, who we identify with.

The Bible teaches that human beings were created in the image of G-d (Genesis 1:27). Since G-d has no corporeal image, the Torah is telling us that we were created in a spiritual image of the Almighty - that we can emulate the Almighty in doing kindness and that we can use speech to perfect this world.

Many times people are not aware of how they speak. Use of curse words demeans the speaker who, after all, should look upon him/herself as a holy individual created in the image of the Almighty! Also, people need to be aware of how they use speech when talking with someone or about someone. Loshon hora (literally, "evil speech") is derogatory speech and is forbidden by Biblical law even when it's true - unless there is a compelling requirement to share the information. Loshon hora is the fuel for hatred, jealousy and contention. It can break an engagement, end a marriage, destroy a partnership, ruin a life. However, proper speech can bring harmony and build relationships. Words can hurt, words can heal.


Do not express damaging or derogatory information about someone that might cause him physical, psychological or financial harm, even if it is true and deserved.

Promote people's well being. When in doubt, don't speak out.

Humor is great, but make sure jokes aren't at someone else's expense.

Be kind to yourself. Speaking badly even about yourself is unethical.

Don't listen to gossip. If you can't change the direction of the conversation, it is advisable to leave.

If you inadvertently hear damaging information, you should believe that it is NOT true.

Always give others the benefit of the doubt and focus on the positive.

Words once spoken can't be erased. Think before you speak, especially if you are angry, hurt or jealous.

Use kind and supportive words with your children and spouse whenever possible. Harsh words can cause irreparable harm as can speaking derogatorily to others about the ones you love most.

It is not only permitted, but required, to warn a person about potential harm - for example, that a potential business partner has a repeated record of embezzlement.
Love Yehuda


This is one very Crazy Bird . . Check
 Him out . .
'This is an attachment so it will work!!


Tuesday, December 29, 2009


Act Joyously

Act joyously. These two words are powerful. They work. Test it out congruently and see for yourself

 how effective this formula is.

If it's so easy, how come everyone isn't radiating joy? I didn't claim it was easy. It's simple to say,

but the very fact that not everyone consistently applies it shows that it doesn't come naturally to many people. It takes effort. And it also takes belief in the process. You can counteract the effects of acting joyously by holding back or by repeating to yourself, "This won't really work."

"Act with enthusiastic joy and you will actually experience it," was expressed by Rabbi Moshe Chaim Luzzatto

 in his classic work "Path of The Just" written in 1740. Since then many professionals in the field of human 

emotions have repeated this formula. It worked then and it still works now. The more flexible someone is with 

their emotions, the easier it is for them to apply this. Experiments with biofeedback technology and the testing

 of hormones in the blood after acting joyously have proven its effectiveness.

 Love Yehuda
Basilica of our Lady of Peace, Yamoussoukro
Inside sitting capacity  . .18,000   Outside overflow capacity. 100, 000


World Water Park. .Edmonton, Albert, Canada   . .SIZE. 5 Acres

Chicago Merchandise Mart. ..Illinois, USA

South China Mall, Dongguan, China   892,000 meter-square
Shops on 6 floors

J.F.K. International Airport,  New York     . .USA

Sydney harbor bridge, Australia . .16 lanes of car
traffic. .8 lanes in the upper floor, 8 in the lower floor
Donghai Bridge,  China         32.5 kilo meters

MS Freedom of the Seas  4300 passenger Capacity Inside

Airbus A380  . .555 Passenger
Neoplan Jumbo
-cruiser . .2 in 1 bus. double deck bus  170 passenger capacity

Burj Dubai  . 900 meters high. To be finally completed 2008

Palace of the Parliament. .Bucharest, Romania
  .  more than 500 bedrooms, 55 kitchens,120 sitting rooms

New WEMBLEY STADIUM, London. 90, 000 capacities    . cost. .$1.6 billion 



spitiual side of Yehuda

Dr. Yehuda Lave

4946 Rockford Drive

San Diego, CA 92115

Phone: (619) 889-4389 Fax 619-819-0217


Loving-kindness and Truth my specialty

Internationally Known Speaker and Lecturer and Author. Self Help through Torah and Psychology. Classes in controlling anger and finding Joy. Now living and working in San Diego after returning from Israel.


Available for individual, family, business, success, joy and personal counseling by appointment. If you are being held back in your life by your own limitations isn't it time to become the you that you are capable of being? Remember, it only takes a moment to change your life. Learn to have all the joy in your life that you deserve!!!


January 1996 to 2001

Teaching and studying and writing in Israel. Torah is the name of the game in Israel, with 3,500 years of mystics and scholars interpreting G-d's word. There are great masters here to interpret Spirituality.

1979 to 1996

Ran a successful holistic counseling and business practice in California and Canada. Dealt with family, business and holistic issues. Had a business and psychology column in several newspapers on a weekly basis. Gave talks and lectures throughout the Western United States.


Lived and Studied with spiritual masters in California, regarded mediation and rebirthing. Among teachers were Lenord Orr and Tim Heath.

Grandson of Orthodox Rabbi on Father's side and Holocaust survivor on

Self help through Torah & Psychology

Recently Rabbi Pliskin and I completed a series on Controlling your Anger and finding more Joy in your life. Several people asked for follow-up as to what they could do in their lives for improvement. This follow-up to how to improve your life.

Everyone wants a more peaceful and successful life. The question is what to do? Where do we turn for answers when we have no heroes to turn to do, no leaders that we want to emulate?

In times like these, we must return to our basics to center out lives. When we feel there is no purpose to our lives, we our in a crisis. Dr. Harold Bloomfield, a psychoanalyst in California, put forth the proposition that when we are in a personal crisis, underneath it is always a spiritual crisis. The same concerns that we used to be able to live with our now a crisis, because we have lost faith in G-d.

This is no small matter. What makes humans unique as a species is the fact that we can contemplate our own mortality. Animals don't worry about their short time on this earth, because they don't have the intellectual ability to worry about it. We do. And because we do, at times it causes a crisis in our ability to be functional human beings. The knowledge that we have a limited time to complete our jobs here on the planet can either motivate us our turn us into non-functional beings that are incapable of getting anything done. We must motivate ourselves constantly to appreciate the things we have or we soon turn into callous selfish human beings. And time is the most precious thing of all. A child doesn't feel it yet, but with each ache and wrinkle that calls us to the grave, we start to recognize our limitations. Without a purpose for our lives, we see no hope no meaning.

For thousands of years the Jewish People have seen their mission as G-d's first born nation as that hope and function. The fact that you have chosen to live or visit in Israel is one manifestation of that hope. The Jewish people have survived constant torture and death in their long history, with their faith being the germane reason for their existence. That faith that sustained us in our long march through history can nurture us to today in what is seemingly a G-d less world. It is a principal of psychology that what we see is what we get. If we see a G-d less world, we live in one. If we see a G-d that is loving and nurturing we live in one. One of my friends made a play on my name of Lave (heart in English), and called me Dr. Love. If Love is all we need in this world than I will gladly be Dr. Love to bring this knowledge to the world.

This is why today there is such hope for the interplay between Torah and Psychology. People are cognizant of the fact that the brain has been studied enough to be able to accept that a psychologist can help them sort out their problems. If a person accepts the Torah as being divine, obviously as the Ramban said, G-d is the world's greatest psychologist, because he invented the brain and knows how it works. It is only today, however, that we are just beginning to use our psychological science to appreciate how great G-d's wisdom is.

With that new appreciation, we can start to practically apply Torah ideas as the basis for our lives. When it asks in the Mishna as to who is a wise man, and answers as to one who can see the outcome of his or her actions, we can practically apply this to our lives. When we abuse our bodies, we suffer. When we yell at our children, they learn to disrespect us. When we our not in appreciation of all of G-d's gifts, we sometimes loose them. Studying the affects of our outcomes, can lead us to new and improved wisdom.

The purpose of study is learn how to make a more successful life. Those of who spend many hours of our day learning, most realize without application, learning is simply unrealized potential.


Cordially yours,

 Yehuda Lave


Monday, December 28, 2009

WHITE TIGER CUBS and Forgive Fully

Forgive Fully

A person who sincerely fears the Almighty should forgive someone who wronged him when that person 

asks for forgiveness. He should do his best to return to the previous state of loving-friendship that existed before the other person erred.

We find in the Torah (Genesis 50:21) that Yosef forgave his brothers for selling him into slavery as soon as they asked his forgiveness. He told them that because he fears G-d they need not worry.

Is there anyone you have not yet forgiven? If yes, imagine that the person has the wisdom and courage to

 ask you for forgiveness. Visualize yourself forgiving that person. The next time you encounter that person

 act with the friendliness of someone you have forgiven.

Love Yehuda



    White tigers get new mummy!!

When hurricane Hannah separated two white tigers from their mother, Anjana came to the Rescue. Anjana, a chimp at TIGERS in South Carolina , became surrogate mom and playmate to the cubs, even helping with bottle feeding, according to The Sun. But here's the truly amazing part: This is something Anjana does all the time, having helped raise leopard and lion cubs on several occasions.

Look at the love in the chimps eyes & on its face - Priceless!





Sunday, December 27, 2009

The Pasta Diet and Correct Faults Inversely

Correct Faults Inversely

In every area that you have a fault, determine what behavior would be diametrically opposed to that fault. For example, someone who tends to be impulsive should slow down and think carefully before taking action. Similarly, someone who has a strong love for money should act in a very generous manner.

What do you consider to be your three greatest faults? Take one of those faults and think about what its opposite would be. Then visualize yourself mastering that positive quality.

Love Yehuda



The Pasta Diet and Your Health


1.. You walka pasta da bakery.

2.. You walka pasta da candy store.

3.. You walka pasta da Ice Cream shop.

4.. You walka pasta da table and fridge.

You will lose weight!



For those of you who watch what you eat,
here's the final word on nutrition and health.
It's a relief to know the truth
after all those conflicting
nutritional studies.

1. The Japanese eat very little fat
and suffer fewer heart attacks than

2. The Mexicans eat a lot of fat
and suffer fewer heart attacks than Americans.

3. The Chinese drink very little red wine
and suffer fewer heart attacks than Americans.

4. The Italians drink a lot of red wine
and suffer fewer heart attacks than Americans.

5. The Germans drink a lot of beers and eat lots of sausages and fats
and suffer fewer heart attacks than Americans.


Eat and drink what you like.
Speaking English is apparently what kills you.


Friday, December 25, 2009

ENLIGHTENED PERSPECTIVE and Experiencing moments of Joy on this Christmas day 2009

Hotmail didn't like my attachement about Bach so I am sending this again (forgive me if you got it already)

Experiencing Moments of Joy

A person experiencing difficult and challenging life situations won't be happy. But he can still choose to say and do many things that will enable him to experience moments of joy. For example, a person who just lost his job isn't happy about it. He has a mortgage and is worried about how he will make the payments. But while he is thinking about what he can do to support his family and make the payments, he can still take actions that will be a source of meaningful joy. He can help a young child cross a busy street, or he can encourage someone who needs an emotional lift.

When a person makes a blessing before and after eating, he can be joyful that he is connecting with the Infinite and Eternal. He will still need to find solutions to his problems, but the moment of joy will put him in a better frame of mind for thinking more clearly.

Love Yehuda



Please read all the way to the bottom: If you will take the time to read these, I promise you'll come away with an enlightened perspective. The subjects covered affect us all on a daily basis:

They're written by Andy Rooney, a man who has the gift of saying so much with so few words. Enjoy.......

I've learned.... That the best classroom in the world is at the feet of an elderly person.

I've learned.... That when you're in love, it shows.

I've learned.... That just one person saying to me, 'You've made my day!' makes my day.

I've learned.... That having a child fall asleep in your arms is one of the most peaceful feelings in the world.

I've learned.... That being kind is more important than being right.

I've learned.... That you should never say no to a gift from a child.

I've learned.... That I can always pray for someone when I don't have the strength to help him in some other way.

I've learned.... That no matter how serious your life requires you to be, everyone needs a friend to act goofy with.

I've learned.... That sometimes all a person needs is a hand to hold and a heart to understand.

I've learned.... That simple walks with my father around the block on summer nights when I was a child did wonders for me as an adult.

I've learned.... That life is like a roll of toilet paper. The closer it gets to the end, the faster it goes.

I've learned.... That we should be glad G-d doesn't give us everything we ask for.

I've learned.... That money doesn't buy class.

I've learned..... That it's those small daily happenings that make life so spectacular

I've learned... That under everyone's hard shell is someone who wants to be appreciated and loved.

I've learned.... That to ignore the facts does not change the facts.

I've learned.... That when you plan to get even with someone, you are only letting that person continue to hurt you.

I've learned.... That love, not time, heals all wounds.

I've learned.... That the easiest way for me to grow as a person is to surround myself with people smarter than I am.

I've learned.... That everyone you meet deserves to be greeted with a smile.

I've learned.... That no one is perfect until you fall in love with them.

I've learned... That life is tough, but I'm tougher..

I've learned.... That opportunities are never lost, someone will take the ones you miss.

I've learned ..... That when you harbor bitterness, happiness will dock elsewhere.

I've learned.... That I wish I could have told my Mom and Dad that I loved them one more time before they passed away.

I've learned.... That one should keep his words both soft and tender, because tomorrow he may have to eat them.

I've learned.... That a smile is an inexpensive way to improve your looks.

I 've learned.... That when your newly born grandchild holds your little finger in his little fist, that you're hooked for life.

I've learned.... That everyone wants to live on top of the mountain, but all the happiness and growth occurs while you're climbing it.

I've learned.... That the less time I have to work with, the more things I get done.

Thursday, December 24, 2009

The couple who sneaked into the White House without credentials! and Joyful moments

Unique Joyful Moments

Every living person is unique, from his genetic makeup to his personal history. Since you are unique, your past and future moments of joy will be unique to you. You have your own unique style of joy in the present, too. 

Some people think about the joy of other people. Then they say, "I'm just not a joyful person. I'm not as outgoing and friendly as some joyful people. I would feel strange to act like some of the joyful people I've seen." Realize that you only need to experience joy in your unique way. 

Some extroverts are joyful and some are not. Some introverts are joyful and some are not. Some loud people are joyful and some quiet people are joyful. 

Anyone who isn't joyful right now can choose and decide to create more joy in his own unique way.

Love Yehuda

Subject: The couple who sneaked into the White House without credentials!


The couple who sneaked into the White House without any credentials!



Wednesday, December 23, 2009

The old show business and take a walk

Take a Joy Walk

Walking is one of the healthiest and simplest exercises. 

When you walk briskly, you breathe more deeply and your mind clears. Your brain produces healthy biochemicals that make you feel better and enable you to think with greater clarity. Walking stimulates creativity, and you might think of better ways to reach goals. Many people take walks to come up with solutions to challenges. 

You can utilize your walking time to increase your level of joy. As you walk briskly, repeat to yourself, "With each and every step, I am feeling more and more joy. With each and every step, I am feeling more and more joy. With each and every step, I am feeling more and more joy." 

Love Yehuda



And who knew Johnny could sing?  No one like them and there will be no one like them again. Enjoy, this was great!



Tuesday, December 22, 2009

Mindmessers and talking to yourself about other people

Talking to Yourself About Other People 

Many of your thoughts are about other people: People you know well and people who are strangers to you, but affect your life in various ways. People you are related to and people you are friends with. People you find easy to deal with and people you find challenging. People you respect and like, and people you are upset with. People who are helpful to you and people you wish to help. People you interact with frequently, and people you meet just once.

The way you view people determines how you get along with them. The Torah (Vayikra 19:18) tells us: "Love other people as yourself." Also, the Sages teach us in Pirkei Avos (4:1): "Who is an honorable person? Someone who honors and respects others." When you love and respect someone, you think about him in positive ways. Your self-talk is about his good qualities. You think about what you can learn from him, and this is the definition of a wise person. As the Sages (Pirkei Avos 4:1) say, "Who is wise? Someone who learns from everyone."

When you associate people with their positive qualities and have positive thoughts and feelings about them, you speak to them more positively. You also act towards them with greater kindness and compassion.

Yes, we need to be aware of the totality of people in order protect ourselves and others. But our major focus should be on what is good and right and admirable about others.

Be strongly resolved to keep your mind focused on the virtues and positive qualities of other people. If your mind happens to think unnecessarily about what is wrong with other people, change your thoughts to what is good and right about them.

Your thoughts about another person create a powerful energy. One of my favorite verses is from Proverbs (27:19). "As in water, face to face, so, too, is the heart of one person to another." When you think positive thoughts about another person, that person will tend to feel positively about you also. The deeper and more profound your thoughts and feelings of unconditional love, the more likely it is that this person will reciprocate.

Love Yehuda



Pretty Cool

(Don't ask me!  I don't know how it's done!!)   

Read out loud the text inside the triangle below. 

More than likely you said, 'A bird in the bush,'! and. ........

If this IS what YOU said, then you failed to see that the word THE is repeated twice! 
Sorry, look again..



Next, let's play with some words. 
What do you see? 

In black you can read the word GOOD, in white the word EVIL 
(inside each black letter is a white letter).      
Now, what do you see?

You may not see it at first, but the white spaces read the word optical, 
the blue landscape reads the word illusion. Look again! 
Can you see why this painting is called an optical illusion?

What do you see here?

This one is quite tricky! 

The word TEACH reflects as LEARN.



Last one. 
What do you see? 

You probably read the word ME in brown, but....... 
when you look through ME
 You will see YOU!
Do you need to look again?


Test Your Brain 
This is really cool. 
The second one is amazing so please read all the way though.


Count every '
 F ' in the following text: 



6 -- no joke. 

Really, go Back and Try to find the 6 F's before you scroll down. 

The reasoning behind is further down. 
The brain cannot process 'OF'. 
Incredible or what? Go back and look again!! 
Anyone who counts all 6 'F's' on the first go is a genius.   
Three is normal, four is quite rare.

Send this to your friends. 
It will drive them crazy.! 
And keep them occupied for several minutes..!


Look at the spinning woman and if she is turning right your right side of your brain is working .. 
If she is turning left your left side of your brain is working . 
If she turns both ways for you then you have a 160 or better IQ.


More Brain Stuff . .  From  Cambridge   University  . 

Olny srmat poelpe can raed tihs.
I cdnuolt blveiee taht I cluod aulaclty  uesdnatnrd waht I was rdanieg. The phaonmneal pweor of the hmuan mnid, aoccdrnig  to a rscheearch at Cmabrigde Uinervtisy, it deosn't mttaer in waht oredr the ltteers in a wrod are, the olny iprmoatnt tihng is taht the frist and lsat ltteer be in the rghit pclae. The rset can be a taotl mses and you can sitll raed it wouthit a porbelm. 
  Tihs is bcuseae the huamn mnid deos not raed ervey lteter by istlef, but the wrod as a wlohe. Amzanig huh? yaeh and I awlyas tghuhot slpeling was ipmorantt! if you can raed tihs psas it on  !!