Tuesday, February 13, 2018

May we usher in th​e​ new month​ of​ Adar with joy, and may it be filled with happiness, good health, prosperity, wisdom of Torah learning and Chesed!

Can't see images? Click here...

Yehuda Lave, Spiritual Advisor and Counselor

Grow From Your Daily Routine

Character is developed one positive action at a time. Therefore nothing is actually trivial in our lives. To grow in character development, pay attention to seemingly trivial matters. Someone who grows from each minor life event will eventually reach high levels of character perfection.

Today, think about one character trait that you can develop further by paying close attention to a seemingly trivial aspect of your daily routine.

Out of our daily routine each month comes a mini-holiday, Rosh Hodesh, the beginning of the month. Because of our fixed calendar as we no longer site the moon directly, the holiday can be one or two days. This month coming up, the Month of Adar will be two days Thursday and Friday. Adar hosts the joyous holiday of Purim and it is the month before Nisson where we celebrate Passover, the holiday of our redemption. I'm hoping to get married this month as well, so I will keep you posted.

Love Yehuda Lave

May we usher in th​e​ new month​ of​ Adar with joy,
 and may it be filled with happiness,
good health, prosperity,wisdom of Torah learning and Chesed!

TEDxOrangeCoast - Daniel Amen - Change Your Brain, Change Your Life

Change your Brain, Change your Life. Revelations based on studying 63,000 brain images across 90 countries over 20 years. How Brain imaging can change paradigms and our understanding of healthy life, no matter where we live. Physician, psychiatrist, and teacher, Daniel Amen, MD, is one of the world's foremost experts on applying brain imaging science to clinical psychiatric practice. He is widely regarded as a gifted teacher, taking complex brain science concepts to make them easily accessible to other professionals and the general public. Daniel is the author of 42 professional articles and 28 books, including four New York Times bestsellers. He is the producer and star of five highly popular shows about the brain, which have raised more than 34 million dollars for public television. Daniel is the medical director of Amen Clinics, Inc., that has the world's largest database of functional brain scans totaling more than 64,000. The clinics have seen patients from 90 countries. About TEDx. TEDx was created in the spirit of TED's mission, "ideas worth spreading." The program is designed to give communities, organizations and individuals the opportunity to stimulate dialogue through TED-like experiences at the local level.

One who humiliates another person in public ... even though he may be a scholar and may have done many good deeds, nevertheless loses his portion in the eternal world (Ethics of the Fathers 3:15).

Imagine a situation: you have a fine home, a well-paying job, a comfortable car, and a substantial retirement annuity. If you do a single thoughtless act, you will lose everything you have worked to achieve: home, job, car, and savings. What kind of precautions would you take to avoid even the remotest possibility of incurring such a disaster? Without doubt, you would develop an elaborate system of defenses to assure that this event would never occur.

The Talmud tells us that everything we have worked for during our entire lives can be forfeited in one brief moment of inconsideration: we embarrass another person in public. Perhaps we may say something insulting or make a demeaning gesture. Regardless of how it occurs, the Talmud states that if we cause another person to turn pale because of being humiliated in public, we have committed the equivalent of bloodshed.

Still, we allow our tongues to wag so easily. If we give serious thought to the words of the Talmud, we would exercise the utmost caution in public and be extremely sensitive to other people's feelings, lest an unkind word or degrading gesture deprive us of all our spiritual merits.

Today I shall ...
... try to be alert and sensitive to other people's feelings and take utmost caution not to cause anyone to feel humiliated

I visited these museums in Prague

In 1942, Hitler devised a plan for a Museum of Judaism, to remember the dead Jewish religion, culture and people. Millions of Jewish treasures -- Torah scrolls, ritual objects, books and art -- were looted by the Nazis and taken to warehouses. In Czechoslovakia, the objects were taken to the Jewish Museum in Prague, where the Jews themselves were forced to sort, label, and pack the items for use in the Nazi's future museum. After the war, many of these items were recovered, including thousands of Torah scrolls and nearly one million books. These were distributed to Jewish communities worldwide, as a living testimony to the indestructibility of the Jewish people.

Eating Farm raised fish can kill you

Tilapia...VERY dangerous food.

Honesty in Litigation Rabbi Meir


Mr. Bloom had been sued in a high-figure lawsuit. He enlisted the services of a prominent lawyer who could advocate for him powerfully and successfully.

They had passed the initial legal stages, and were preparing for their first appearance in beis din.

"I advocate denying everything that you can," Mr. Bloom's lawyer advised him. "Whatever has no record — deny! Conversely, claim whatever you can, even beyond the true amount! Also, try to stall as much as possible and throw in distracting counterclaims to wear down the other side. That's the approach I adopted in my written answer."

"But that's not honest," objected Mr. Bloom. "How can I lie in beis din?"

"Don't worry," replied the lawyer. "Almost never do you succeed with the full amount that you claim or deny. Usually the parties reach a settlement agreement in the end or the dayanim rule a compromise. This approach gives us leverage to force the other side to settle in a manner advantageous for us, and you're more likely to pay what you should."

"What if we end up settling for less than I truly owe?" asked Mr. Bloom.

"What's the problem?" replied the lawyer. "If he agreed in the end — that's all you care about. What's the difference whether you were honest all along or not? That's the way it works!"

Despite the assurances of his lawyer, Mr. Bloom did not feel comfortable with the idea. He consulted with his Rav, who recommended that he discuss the issue with Rabbi Dayan.

"I'll do so," agreed Mr. Bloom.

Mr. Bloom called Rabbi Dayan and asked: "Is it acceptable to present false claims or use legal tactics in beis din as leverage to force the other party to settle?"

"The Gemara (Shavuos 31a) teaches that a litigant may not lie to distort the proper legal course," replied Rabbi Dayan. "For example, one may not make an exaggerated claim in order to inflict a modeh b'miktzas (partial admission) oath on the defendant. If three partners lent, one cannot sue as the sole lender and have the other two present themselves as witnesses" (Rambam, Hil. To'en v'Nitan 16:9-10).

"Thus, Terumas Hadeshen (#306) rules that one may not adopt deceitful tactics so that his creditors will agree to settle," continued Rabbi Dayan. "He is withholding money that is rightfully theirs and violates the prohibition against oshek, monetary oppression" (C.M. 12:6).

"Is there any room for leniency?" asked Mr. Bloom.

"Terumas Hadeshen points to a Tosafos (B.K. 40b), which seemingly indicates that there is legal credence to embracing tactics that make the other side settle," answered Rabbi Dayan. "He states that there may be legal credence, but it is wrong to do, like other cases of incidental damage (grama) that are legally exempt, but prohibited.

"Later authorities, though, offer alternate explanations of Tosafos," continued Rabbi Dayan. "Maharshal (Yam Shel Shlomo, B.K. 4:18) writes that when one party has a rightful complaint against the other, even if legally insufficient, he may use legal tactics as leverage to settle. Shevus Yaakov (1:163) prohibits active tactics but allows passive ones. Tumim (12:5) writes that if the defendant has a truthful counterclaim that he cannot prove, he can embrace tactics as leverage to settle advantageously in this case and minimize his loss. Even so, he should avoid lying" (Pischei Teshuvah 12:8; Nesivos 12:3).

"What if I lied in beis din and thereby settled advantageously with the other party?" asked Mr. Bloom.

"Rema writes that you do not fulfill your Heavenly obligation until you returns what is rightfully theirs," answered Rabbi Dayan. "However, if the other party agreed to settle before reaching litigation, Maharil Diskin (Pesakim #82) suggests that you do not have to return what you wrongfully gained, since you are entitled to have your claim verified in beis din and he was willing to forgo a certain amount to avoid litigation" (Pischei Choshen, Halvaah 2:34).

Brilliance In 3 Parts


Part I:

  1. Back off and let those men who want to marry men, marry men.

  2. Allow those women who want to marry women, marry women.

  3. Allow those folks who want to abort their babies, abort their babies.

In three generations, there will be no more Democrats.

Part II:

10 Poorest Cities in America (How did it happen?)  City, State, % of People Below the Poverty Level

  1. Detroit, MI 32.5%

  2. Buffalo, NY 29.9%

  3. Cincinnati, OH 27.8%

  4. Cleveland, OH 27.0%

  5. Miami, FL 26.9%

  6. St. Louis, MO 26.8%

  7. El Paso, TX 26.4%

  8. Milwaukee, WI 26.2%

  9. Philadelphia, PA 25.1%

  10. Newark, NJ 24.2%


What do these top ten cities (each with over 250,000 pop.) with the highest poverty rate all have in common?



Detroit, MI - (1st on poverty rate list) hasn't elected a Republican mayor since 1961

Buffalo, NY - (2nd) hasn't elected one since 1954

Cincinnati, OH - (3rd) not since 1984

Cleveland, OH - (4th) not since 1989

Miami, FL - (5th) has never had a Republican mayor

St. Louis, MO - (6th) not since 1949

El Paso, TX - (7th) has never had a Republican mayor

Milwaukee, WI - (8th) not since 1908

Philadelphia, PA - (9th) not since 1952

Newark, NJ - (10th) not since 1907

Einstein once said, 'The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.'

It is the poor who habitually elect Democrats... yet they are still POOR.

Part III:

"You cannot help the poor by destroying the rich.

You cannot strengthen the weak by weakening the strong.

You cannot bring about prosperity by discouraging thrift. 

You cannot lift the wage earner up by pulling the wage payer down.


You cannot further the brotherhood of man by inciting class hatred.

You cannot build character and courage by taking away people's initiative and independence.

You cannot help people permanently by doing for them, what they could and should do for themselves."

~ Abraham Lincoln

"Any man who thinks he can be happy and prosperous by letting the government take care of him had better take a much closer look at the American Indian."

~Henry Ford


See you tomorrow

Love Yehuda Lave

Rabbi Yehuda Lave

Your mailing address

Contact Phone



You received this email because you signed up on our website or made purchase from us.