Before you evaluate a situation as negative, ask yourself, "How can I be certain that it will really be negative in the long run?"
Before you evaluate a situation as positive, ask yourself, "How can I be certain it will really be positive in the long run?"
The answer is of course we can not know, what the future holds. However, we do know that one definition of insanity is doing the same thing that does not work over and over and expecting different results.
Use your G-d given brains to think through a situation and then make your best decision and ask G-d to help it to come out to be good.
Enjoy the piece in the fax attached about a husband's promises given to us at a wedding last Sunday.