Frequently people worry about the possibility that others might fail to show them respect and approval.
While details differ for each person, the underlying factor is fear of disapproval -- people might think you lack intelligence, or other virtues and abilities.
Realize that the pain you suffer from worrying about this is much greater than that of actual disapproval.
Try to accept the worst. Imagine that every person who sees you will have a low opinion of you. Emotionally accept this. Once you've accepted this, although you might not like it, you will no longer need to worry about lack of approval.
Love Yehuda Lave
The Reason Why There's A Gap In New York City's Skyline
For the longest time, the common explanation was that it had something to do with the city's geology, but economists are arguing that it's about money, not rocks.
This plane could cross the Atlantic in 3.5 hours. Why did it fail?
The Concorde gave us supersonic transport. But why did this supersonic plane fail? The answer is complicated.
Where can I go that I will be away from Your spirit, and where can I flee from You? (Psalms 139:7).
The Psalmist goes on to say that there is no escaping from God because He is present everywhere and knows everything. The Psalmist then concludes: "Search me, O God, and know that which is in my heart" (ibid. 23). Once we realize that God is omniscient, we must abandon all efforts to escape or to hide from Him, since they are futile, and instead open ourselves up to Him.
Just as this concept applies to people's relationship to God, it is equally true of people's relationship to themselves. We cannot escape from ourselves, regardless of what techniques we may employ. We cannot run away to the next neighborhood, nor the next country, nor throw ourselves into our work. We cannot use alcohol or drugs to escape. We cannot even conceal ourselves with denial, repression, and other means of psychological self-deception. Ultimately, we must confront ourselves. It is therefore only logical to cease and desist from these futile efforts and submit ourselves to a thorough journey to self-awareness. Let us say to ourselves: "Search me and know my heart."
Facing ourselves may not be easy. Doing a thorough moral inventory may force us to look at parts of ourselves that we might prefer to disown. However, adjusting to reality requires a thorough self-knowledge. We can only adjust effectively to reality if we have not distorted it.
Today I shall ... ... try to realize that optimum living can only be with a valid self-awareness.
We just finished Yom Kippur recently and the figure in the story that learned you can't run from G-d was Jonah
Selected Writings of Rabbi Meir Kahane,
Amman and Jerusalem
November 22, 1968
There is great agitation and indignation within the United Nations today. It all centers around demands for return by Israel of the land won from Jordan last year. What land? The area that is commonly known as the West Bank of the Jordan. There is really more than a little irony in this demand. Indeed, it approaches the heights of chutzpah.
It is not only that a state which attempted to destroy another one and lost has the gall to demand terms more properly suited to a victor. It is not even the fact that the land Jordan demands was never legally and rightfully annexed by it in the first place. It is really the fact that the state that calls itself Jordan is an entity that is illegal, per se.
As the great holy war swung into its full gear, the little king of the little Kingdom called Jordan began to rain his shells into Jewish Jerusalem. His troops crossed the armistice line and seized territory in the no-man's land in the city. His words and acts were thrown into the battle to wipe out Israel and decimate its inhabitants.
Alas, Allah was unkind to Russia and the king's legion, and uniforms flung aside, aircraft burning, shoes cast away – the Jordanians fled east. From the plunderer came forth plunder and the Israelis swept to the Jordan to put an end to the insanity of a border that, in one place, was only fifteen miles from the Arab devil to the blue Mediterranean Sea.
The land that was taken, however, was not "Jordanian." It was part of pre-1948 Palestine; it was part or Eretz Yisroel, it was Jewish soil from the time of Abraham.
Here was the Old City of Jerusalem where Abraham brought his son Isaac for the Akeda; here was the city where David and his dynasty ruled; here was the sacred Temple Mount with its Western Wall waiting to be redeemed.
Here was Bethlehem were Rachel wept for her children on the way to Efrat. Here was Hebron where the Patriarchs impatiently lay in anticipation of a speedy redemption. Here was Jericho where the walls crashed down to herald the inheritance of the Holy Land by the Egyptian exodees. Here was Judea and Samaria and all the places and sites that have become familiar to a Jewish and non-Jewish Biblical world.
Here was Jewish Eretz Yisroel, a land that had been reluctantly left outside the borders of a Jewish state in 1948 as the Jews of Palestine sorrowfully agreed to temporarily accept partition of their land in their desperate need of some land to house the displaced of Europe and the oppressed of greater Arabia.
But the agreement was conditional and the Arabs, predictably, relieved the Jewish state of any need to adhere to that condition. The Arabs in psychopathic consistency refused any idea of compromise and rejected partition. Their armies rushed in to battle the yahud, and the U.N. sat in an impotence that was destined to become its favorite pose.
It was Jewish blood that won and secured a Jewish state, and the plan that was rejected by the Arabs was buried, unmourned and unlamented. And the West Bank of the Jordan? Under the U.N. plan it was to be given to an Arab Palestine state; under the Arab plan it to be given to an Arab Palestine state; under no circumstances did anyone foresee a usurper Jordan annexing it.
And yet, that is exactly what happened. Possessed of a British-trained and run Arab Legion, King Abdullah proved to be the only foe that Israel could not overcome. His army seized the West Bank and Old Jerusalem and decided that Israel would not have it and neither would an Arab Palestine be created. From now on, it was to be part of Jordan.
No one accept this. The U.N. denied the legality of the move; the Israelis refused to recognize it and the Arab states themselves fumed at the annexation.
On December 13, 1948, Egypt's King Farouk served notice that he did not recognize Jordan's right to the West Bank. The Arab League threatened expulsion of Jordan from the body (Abdullah yawned and welcomed the move). Faced with a fait accompli, the Arab League never did recognize the grab but adopted a resolution on May 13, 1949 "to treat the Arab part of Palestine annexed by Jordan as a trust in its hands until the Palestine case is fully solved in the interests of its inhabitants."
So much for the Jordanian claim to the West Bank. The land it claims is Jewish land, sorrowfully given up in return for a peace and friendship the Arabs never gave. Their rejection of the latter doomed the former, and the land returned to tis true owners.
What is more important, however, is the need to examine the very basis of the travesty that calls itself Jordan. In itself it is an illegality, a travesty of justice, a robbery of Jewish possessions.
There never was Jordan until perfidious Albion – the British Colonial Ministry – decided to invent one, and the story is one that more should know about.
When the Balfour Declaration backed the establishment of a Jewish national home in Palestine, there was never any country that was known as Jordan. The historic boundaries of ancient Israel included the east bank of the Jordan, and Balfour himself made this clear in a memorandum dated August 11, 1919:
"Palestine should extend into the lands lying east of the Jordan?"
A desert chieftain named Abdullah ibn-Hussein and his brother Feisal, fleeing the Arabian wrath of Ibn Saud, were offered in 1920 the thrones of Iraq and Syria, respectively. Unfortunately for the Arabs, the French, who were given mandatory powers in Syria by the League of Nations, informed Feisal that he was most unwelcome in Damascus. The Arab took the Gallic hint and departed
Since both brothers were British pawns in the struggle by the Colonial Office to make the Middle East British, Feisal was given the throne of Iraq by the British Foreign Office, while Abdullah was left holding an empty kingdom-bag.
Faced with this, Abdullah began to make all manner of bellicose sounds about marching on Syria and ousting the French. While Paris hardly lost sleep, the British did not relish the idea of a confrontation between their puppet and the French and so, in 1921, Winston Churchill met with Abdullah and offered him an annual subsidy and established a new country to be known as "Transjordan" for Abdullah to rule.
It little mattered that such a step was illegal and that it robbed Jewish Palestine of a major share of its land. Whitehall proposed and Whitehall disposed.
Transjordan came into being, a comic-opera illegality, ruled in theory by Abdullah but in practice by London.
This was the state that on May 31, 1967 signed a defense agreement with Nasser to destroy Israel; this was the state that declared through its king, on that same day: "With the help of G-d and the solidarity of the Arabs we will see the victory of truth over the lie-s of the enemy"; this is the state whose radio declared during the terrible days of June 1967.
"How long did we wait and prepare for these hours of honor and for the day the Arabs would advance . . . Be ready to meet on the soil of eternal Falastin [Palestine]." (June 1, 1967)
"Free citizens, heroic sons of Jordan. The hoped-for moment has arrived. Forward to arms, to battle, to new pages of glory. To regain our rights, to smash the aggressor, to revenge."
(June 5, 1967, 0915 hours)
"We are living through the most sacred hours of life . . . Long did we wait for this battle in order to erase our shame."
(The Premier, June 5)
"Today the soldiers of Hussein have brought doom to the Jewish strongholds in Jerusalem . . . They destroyed the Knesset and have liberated the holy soil from the Zionists. The heroic soldiers are marching forward towards Tel Aviv."
(June 5, 1800 hours)
"Froward toward your meeting with Rabin in Tel Aviv."
(June 5, 1155 hours)
Rabin was waiting, but the Jordanians never came. They busily were heading in the opposite direction, where they sit today, and demand the return of a territory that was never theirs to a state that was illegal from its inception.
 On December 17, 1862, General Ulysses Grant wrote to the Assistant Adjutant General of the US Army:
"I have long since believed that in spite of all the vigilance that can be infused into post commanders, the specie regulations of the Treasury Department have been violated, and that mostly by the Jews and other unprincipled traders. So well satisfied have I been of this that I instructed the commanding officer at Columbus to refuse all permits to Jews to come South, and I have frequently had them expelled from the department. But they come in with their carpet-sacks in spite of all that can be done to prevent it. The Jews seem to be a privileged class that can travel anywhere. They will land at any woodyard on the river and make their way through the country. If not permitted to buy cotton themselves, they will act as agents for someone else, who will be at a military post with a Treasury permit to receive cotton and pay for it in Treasury notes which the Jew will buy at an agreed rate, paying gold."
Also, on December 17, 1862, General Ulysses S. Grant issued General Orders No. 11. This order banished all Jews from Tennessee's western military.
General Orders No. 11 declared:
"1. The Jews, as a class, violating every regulation of trade established by the Treasury Department, are hereby expelled from the Department.
"2. Within 24 hours from the receipt of this order by Post Commanders, they will see that all of this class of people are furnished with passes required to leave, and anyone returning after such notification, will be arrested and held in confinement until an opportunity occurs of sending them out as prisoners, unless furnished with permits from these headquarters.
"3. No permits will be given these people to visit headquarters for the purpose of making personal application for trade permits.
"By order of Major Gen. Grant.
"Jno. A. Rawlings, Assistant Adjutant General"
UN Resolutions against Israel, 1955-1992
Resolution 106: "... 'condemns' Israel for Gaza raid"
Resolution 111: "...'condemns' Israel for raid on Syria that killed fifty-six people"
Resolution 127: "...'recommends' Israel suspend its 'no-man's zone' in Jerusalem"
Resolution 162: "...'urges' Israel to comply with UN decisions"
Resolution 171: "...determines flagrant violations' by Israel in its attack on Syria"
Resolution 228: "...'censures' Israel for its attack on Samu in the West Bank, then
under Jordanian control"
Resolution 237: "...'urges' Israel to allow return of new 1967 Palestinian refugees"
Resolution 248: "... 'condemns' Israel for its massive attack on Karameh in Jordan"
Resolution 250: "... 'calls' on Israel to refrain from holding military parade in Jerusalem"
Resolution 251: "... 'deeply deplores' Israeli military parade in Jerusalem in
defiance of Resolution 250"
Resolution 252: "...'declares invalid' Israel's acts to unify Jerusalem as Jewish capital"
Resolution 256: "... 'condemns' Israeli raids on Jordan as 'flagrant violation""
Resolution 259: "...'deplores' Israel's refusal to accept UN mission to probe occupation"
Resolution 262: "...'condemns' Israel for attack on Beirut airport"
Resolution 265: "... 'condemns' Israel for air attacks for Salt in Jordan"
Resolution 267: "...'censures' Israel for administrative acts to change the status
Resolution 270: "...'condemns' Israel for air attacks on villages in southern Lebanon"
Resolution 271: "...'condemns' Israel's failure to obey UN resolutions on Jerusalem"
Resolution 279: "...'demands' withdrawal of Israeli forces from Lebanon"
Resolution 280: "....'condemns' Israeli's attacks against Lebanon"
Resolution 285: "...'demands' immediate Israeli withdrawal form Lebanon"
Resolution 298: "...'deplores' Israel's changing of the status of Jerusalem"
Resolution 313: "...'demands' that Israel stop attacks against Lebanon"
Resolution 316: "...'condemns' Israel for repeated attacks on Lebanon"
Resolution 317: "...'deplores' Israel's refusal to release Arabs abducted in Lebanon"
Resolution 332: "...'condemns' Israel's repeated attacks against Lebanon"
Resolution 337: "...'condemns' Israel for violating Lebanon's sovereignty"
Resolution 347: "...'condemns' Israeli attacks on Lebanon"
Resolution 425: "...'calls' on Israel to withdraw its forces from Lebanon"
Resolution 427: "...'calls' on Israel to complete its withdrawal from Lebanon'
Resolution 444: "...'deplores' Israel's lack of cooperation with UN peacekeeping forces"
Resolution 446: "...'determines' that Israeli settlements are a 'serious obstruction'
to peace and calls on Israel to abide by the Fourth Geneva Convention"
Resolution 450: "...'calls' on Israel to stop attacking Lebanon"
Resolution 452: "...'calls' on Israel to cease building settlements in occupied territories"
Resolution 465: "...'deplores' Israel's settlements and asks all member states not to assist
Israel's settlements program"
Resolution 467: "...'strongly deplores' Israel's military intervention in Lebanon"
Resolution 468: "...'calls' on Israel to rescind illegal expulsions of two Palestinian mayors
and a judge and to facilitate their return"
Resolution 469: "...'strongly deplores' Israel's failure to observe the council's order not
to deport Palestinians"
Resolution 471: "... 'expresses deep concern' at Israel's failure to abide by the Fourth
Resolution 476: "... 'reiterates' that Israel's claims to Jerusalem are 'null and void'"
Resolution 478: "...'censures (Israel) in the strongest terms' for its claim to Jerusalem
in its 'Basic Law'"
Resolution 484: "...'declares it imperative' that Israel re-admit two deported Palestinian
Resolution 487: "...'strongly condemns' Israel for its attack on Iraq's nuclear facility"
Resolution 497: "...'decides' that Israel's annexation of Syria's Golan Heights is 'null and
void' and demands that Israel rescind its decision forthwith"
Resolution 498: "...'calls' on Israel to withdraw from Lebanon"
Resolution 501: "...'calls' on Israel to stop attacks against Lebanon and withdraw its troops"
Resolution 509: "...'demands' that Israel withdraw its forces forthwith and unconditionally
Resolution 515: "...'demands' that Israel lift its siege of Beirut and allow food supplies to
be brought in"
Resolution 517: "...'censures' Israel for failing to obey UN resolutions and demands that
Israel withdraw its forces from Lebanon"
Resolution 518: "...'demands' that Israel cooperate fully with UN forces in Lebanon"
Resolution 520: "...'condemns' Israel's attack into West Beirut"
Resolution 573: "...'condemns' Israel 'vigorously' for bombing Tunisia in attack on PLO
Resolution 587: "...'takes note' of previous calls on Israel to withdraw its forces from
Lebanon and urges all parties to withdraw"
Resolution 592: "...'strongly deplores' the killing of Palestinian students at Bir Zeit
University by Israeli troops"
Resolution 605: "...'strongly deplores' Israel's policies and practices denying the human
rights of Palestinians
Resolution 607: "...'calls' on Israel not to deport Palestinians and strongly requests it to
abide by the Fourth Geneva Convention
Resolution 608: "...'deeply regrets' that Israel has defied the United Nations and deported
Resolution 636: "...'deeply regrets' Israeli deportation of
Resolution 641: "...'deplores' Israel's continuing deportation of Palestinians
Resolution 672: "...'condemns' Israel for violence against Palestinians at the Haram
Resolution 673: "...'deplores' Israel's refusal to cooperate with the United Nations
Resolution 681: "...'deplores' Israel's resumption of the deportation of Palestinians
Resolution 694: "...'deplores' Israel's deportation of Palestinians and calls on it to ensure
their safe and immediate return
Resolution 726: "...'strongly condemns' Israel's deportation of Palestinians
Resolution 799: "...'strongly condemns' Israel's deportation of 413 Palestinians and calls for
their immediate return.
(Former Congressman Paul Findley's Deliberate Deceptions: Facing the Facts about the U.S.
Israeli Relationship, 1998. Pages 188 - 192. These the 65 Resolutions passed against Israel
are more than all the Resolutions passed against all other countries combined).
UN Resolutions against Israel Vetoed by US from September, 1972 to May, 1990
....condemned Israel's attack against Southern against southern Lebanon and Syria..."
....affirmed the rights of the Palestinian people to self-determination, statehood and
...condemned Israel's air strikes and attacks in southern Lebanon and its murder of
....called for self-determination of Palestinian people..."
....deplored Israel's altering of the status of Jerusalem, which is recognized as an
international city by most world nations
and the United Nations..."
....affirmed the inalienable rights of the Palestinian people..."
....endorsed self-determination for the Palestinian people..."
....demanded Israel's withdrawal from the Golan Heights..."
....condemned Israel's mistreatment of Palestinians in the occupied West Bank and Gaza
Strip and its refusal to abide by the Geneva convention protocols of civilized nations..."
....condemned an Israeli soldier who shot eleven Moslem worshippers at the Haram
al-Sharif/Temple Mount near Al-Aqsa Mosque in the Old City of Jerusalem..."
....urged sanctions against Israel if it did not withdraw
from its invasion of Lebanon..."
....urged sanctions against Israel if it did not
.withdraw from its invasion of Beirut..."
....urged cutoff of economic aid to Israel if it refused to withdraw from its occupation
....condemned continued Israeli settlements in occupied territories in the West Bank and
Gaza Strip, denouncing them as an obstacle to peace..."
....deplores Israel's brutal massacre of Arabs in Lebanon and urges its withdrawal..."
....condemned Israeli brutality in southern Lebanon and denounced the Israeli 'Iron Fist'
policy of repression...."
....denounced Israel's violation of human rights in the occupied territories..."
....deplored Israel's violence in southern Lebanon..."
....deplored Israel's activities in occupied Arab East Jerusalem that threatened the sanctity
of Muslim holy sites..."
....condemned Israel's hijacking of a Libyan passenger airplane..."
....deplored Israel's attacks against Lebanon and its measures and practices against the
civilian population of Lebanon..."
....called on Israel to abandon its policies against the Palestinian intifada that violated the
rights of occupied Palestinians, to abide by the Fourth Geneva Conventions, and to formalize a
leading role for the United Nations in future peace negotiations..."
....urged Israel to accept back deported Palestinians, condemned Israel's shooting of civilians,
called on Israel to uphold the Fourth Geneva Convention, and called for a peace settlement under UN
....condemned Israel's... incursion into Lebanon..."
....deplored Israel's... commando raids on Lebanon..."
....deplored Israel's repression of the Palestinian intifada and called on Israel to respect the
human rights of the Palestinians..."
....deplored Israel's violation of the human rights of the Palestinians..."
....demanded that Israel return property confiscated from Palestinians during a tax protest and
allow a fact-finding mission to observe Israel's crackdown on the Palestinian intifada..."
...called for a fact-finding mission on abuses against Palestinians in Israeli-occupied lands..."