Lighten Your Evaluations
Even if you find it too difficult to view certain events in a positive manner, there are variations of how "negative" you view them.
If you tell yourself, "This is awful, I can't stand it," by your own arbitrary evaluation you suffer a lot. But you can choose to tell yourself, "I find this very unpleasant, but I can still cope with it. If possible, I will change it; if change is impossible, I will work on accepting it, even if I don't like it."
Love Yehuda Lave
Even if you find it too difficult to view certain events in a positive manner, there are variations of how "negative" you view them.
If you tell yourself, "This is awful, I can't stand it," by your own arbitrary evaluation you suffer a lot. But you can choose to tell yourself, "I find this very unpleasant, but I can still cope with it. If possible, I will change it; if change is impossible, I will work on accepting it, even if I don't like it."
Love Yehuda Lave
This week in synagogue we read the ten commandments from the book of Exodus