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[Man and wife] shall be one body. (Genesis 2:24)
In recent times, we have witnessed an unprecedented tidal wave of divorce. This phenomenon appears to be directly linked to modern attitudes towards marriage. Let's look at the Torah's concept of marriage, which has produced much marital happiness for over three thousand years.
An analogy is a good start. Table salt is a chemical compound called sodium chloride; it consists of two elements, sodium and chorine, in combination.
Pure sodium is very volatile. If dropped into water, it will explode into fire. No one would ever want to eat it. Chlorine is a corrosive gas, which can cause severe irritation and a choking sensation. When sodium and chlorine combine, however, each loses its individual properties; the fusion is a totally new compound which bears no resemblance to either component.
When the Torah states that husband and wife should become one, it means that two unique people should fuse into a new being. In forming this new being, each "element" must be ready and willing to divest itself of its own identity, so that this new "compound" may be that which is most desirable and most constructive.
Clearly, the sharing of oneself in a marriage relationship cannot be as dramatic and radical as in the example of sodium and chlorine fusing into table salt. Nevertheless, much of the incompatibility that has resulted in divorce is due to the refusal of partners to yield of themselves.
Today I shall ... ... try to realize that in marriage, I must be willing to relinquish some of my own individuality to permit the emergence of a family unit.
On one hand, I sense that God exists. On the other hand, I have a hard time seeing Him. What can I do to bridge that gap?
The Aish Rabbi Replies:
A guy is riding his motorcycle down a mountain rode when suddenly he loses control and goes hurtling off the cliff. As he's sailing through the air, he shouts out: "God! Please make a miracle! Save me!"
Within moments his shirt gets caught on a protruding branch - and he is left dangling thousands of feet above the ground.
There's no way out, so he looks heavenward and shouts: "God! Please save me!"
"Do you trust Me, my beloved son?" calls the voice from heaven.
"Yes, God, I trust you. Just please save me!"
"Okay then," says God. "Let go of the branch and I'll catch you."
The man thinks for a moment, look around, and calls out: "Is anyone else out there?!"
The key to forging a relationship with God is to trust Him. God is not some vindictive, punishing old man in the sky. God is our loving Creator, who wants only our best. Sometimes that calls for Him to "test" us with difficulties; but the intention is only to bring out our very best.
When we are children, we think we are the center of the universe. Then, through experience and trials, we become increasingly aware of the fact that there are things in life beyond our control. Whether it's earthquakes, cancer, the rise and fall of fortunes, circumstances of our birth - and even birth itself... this can only be ascribed to a Higher Power.
Maimonides writes that there are two primary ways to attain recognition of God: by observing the wonders of Creation, and by performing mitzvot. Through nature, we see the beauty, splendor, and perfect unity of the world. Through mitzvot, we see how humanity can likewise attain unity and perfection.
The conference, which discusses the innovations necessary to create a better world, as well as Israel's contribution to future solutions and developments, sees the participation of some 1,000 guests from around the world, including political leaders and senior officials from leading companies.
The conference was initiated by the Culture and Sport Ministry, in coordination with the Peres Center for Peace and Innovation, in honor of 70 years of Israeli tradition and innovation..
At the opening of the conference, a hologram was broadcast featuring the voice and likeness of the late Israeli President Shimon Peres, in which he "announced" his will for the Israel Center for Innovation, launched at the conference.
"My vision for the Israeli innovation center established here within the Peres Center for Peace and Innovation is to serve as a window to the future. A place for dreams, a place that expresses the desire to leave the next generation with a better and brighter future," the Peres hologram said.
"The future is made of the dreams of today. We must continue to work on developing the vision of tomorrow, not simply remembering the past. We have the power to create change and opportunity to have an impact."
Dozens of delegations from around the world arrived for the conference. Countries sending delegations included: China, the US, Italy, France, Australia, Britain, Korea, Mexico, Switzerland, Uganda, Singapore, Russia, Hong Kong, Peru, Germany, and others.
The delegations are expected to discuss the innovations necessary to create a better world, as well as Israel's contribution to future solutions and developments.
Israel's groundbreaking technological inventions will be presented at the conference, as well as the country's contribution to innovations which aid the management of health, food, agriculture, sustainability, and cyber challenges.
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