Yehuda Lave is an author, journalist, psychologist, rabbi, spiritual teacher and coach, with degrees in business, psychology and Jewish Law. He works with people from all walks of life and helps them in their search for greater happiness, meaning, business advice on saving money, and spiritual engagement
You can Learn to be Happy
Happiness is a skill that can be learned. The essential factor whether or not you will live a happy life is based less on external factors such as wealth, success and fame, and more on your attitude toward life, toward yourself, toward other people, and toward events and situations. Regardless of your attitudes in the past, you have the ability to change and become a master of happiness.
Today is the best day to improve your skills. Either things will go EXACTLY the way you want -- and then you can focus on the feeling of joy. Or things will NOT go the way you want and you'll have the opportunity to attain greater mastery over your attitude.
Throughout the day, keep asking yourself: "What attitude will enable me to experience joy and empowerment RIGHT NOW?
Love Yehuda Lave
Don't mess with Jews
Two New York businessmen were standing around in their soon-to-be store. Their store wasn't yet ready, and didn't even have shelves set up. One says to the other, "I bet any minute now some Jewish guy is going to walk by, put his face to the window, and ask us what we're selling."
No sooner were the words spoken when, sure enough, a curious old Jewish man walked to the window, had a peek, and in a soft voice asked, "Vat ya sellin' here?"
One of them replied sarcastically, "We're selling idiots."
Without skipping a beat, the old Jewish man says, "Must be doing very vell, only two left."
THE MORAL OF THE STORY..... DON'T MESS WITH OLD JEWS.
Beit El baker talks hamantashen ahead of Purim
The Southern accent might fool you into thinking Herby Dan is a newcomer to Israel.
Nothing could be further from the truth. Herby's Bakeshop has been cranking up its ovens at 5 a.m. in the Samaria community of Beit El for 30 years. Read More Related Articles
So, how did this Memphis boy find his way "Home" to the community of 6500 in the hills, north of Jerusalem?
Dan was studying law at the University of Tennessee in Knoxville, while as a Shabbat guest he tasted the best challah bread of his life. Attaining the family recipe of his hostess, Dan tried his hand at baking his own. Dan began selling his homemade challah and caraway seed bread at St. Jude's Children's Hospital, where his brother worked. Half the staff were Dan's satisfied customers. Dan diligently completed his law studies while continuing to bake.
Once a lawyer, he was burning his candle at two ends, working at his bakery in the early morning hours, then brushing off the flour, putting on his suit and heading for court.
Dan spent a year learning the ropes of the bakery business in New York while looking for a wife. He married a fellow Southerner, Debbie Klaff, and the young couple moved back to Dan's hometown of Memphis.
Things were going very well for the couple as Dan's bakery and their family grew, but their heart was somewhere else.
In 1986, their dream of making Aliyah to Israel became a reality.
Through the help of a friend, they found a home in the community of Beit El, the location where Jacob dreamed of a ladder reaching the heavens and received the promise of God's protection (Genesis 28:12-17). The street names in their neighborhood, Wheat, Barley, Grapevine, Fig, Pomegranate, Olive, and Date reflect the daily blessings the residents feel bestowed from above, fulfilling the prophecy of the Holy Land flowering as its people return.
However, their homes are threatened daily, either from Arab terrorists infiltrating their community or from politicians, including President Trump's cabinet pushing for a two state solution, putting a halt to the natural growth promised in the prophecies.
In 1989, in the midst of the first Intifada, Herby's Bakeshop was open for business. Dan dazzled his customers with his special honey challah, plus everyone's favorites: brownies, chocolate chip cookies and oatmeal raisin cookies. Did we mention Dan's American style doughnuts? His doughnuts came in second place in a Jerusalem survey and his hamantashen, a special Purim pastry, have won first place more than once. Now making four deliveries a week to cities such as Jerusalem, Beit Shemesh, Modi'in and Hashmona'im, among other places, Dan's menu has grown. With the recommendation of his son, Meir, Herby's Bakeshop now offers whole wheat and spelt crackers topped with zaatar and rosemary or sun-dried tomatoes and garlic.
Supplying such a varied menu could keep any bakery on its toes, but life in the outlying communities doesn't always run according to schedule.
The 20 minute ride from Beit El to the nation's capital of Jerusalem doubled during the period of the Oslo accords when world pressure caused the Israeli government at the time to build circumvention roads around areas of "Palestinian unrest."
In other words, peace abiding Jewish settlers were maligned as obstacles to peace. The presence of Jewish Israelis and Jewish immigrants returning to their homeland, rebuilding homes and businesses in their ancient cities was considered incitement against the Arab populations in Samaria and Judea who want the Jewish population of Israel pushed into the sea. The "compromise" was building roads that made it illegal for Jews to go through the dangerous Arab areas. That backfired, because it was considered unfair by the left-wing courts to have roads exclusively for Jewish travelers, even if the original intent was for reasons of safety. Neither the added danger nor the added time and fuel expense deter Dan from supplying his customers.
The leadership of Beit El counts on Dan. They rely on him to keep ample supplies that, in case of emergency, could provide bread for the entire community of 6,500 people. The scenario of either a security situation or inclement weather preventing the major bakeries supplying the grocery store is a very real one.
Case in point, when snow closed the roads from Jerusalem to Beit El , freezing the water pipes of his bakery, Dan didn't let that stop him. He gathered snow and melted it in order to keep the bread baking!
In the Book of Deuteronomy 28:5 God says, "Blessed shall be your basket and your kneading bowl." No one is worthier of that blessing than Dan and his family. For years the bakery van, when not transporting supplies and fresh-baked bread and pastries, was available to drive elders of the community to the Golden Age Club initiated by Dan's wife, Debbie. Both Debbie and Dan's mothers were brought to join the family and spend their golden years in the Holy Land. Understanding that learning a new language in their later years was not an easy option for the aged, Debbie arranged for Torah classes, exercise and memory games to be led in English whenever possible. Finding time to support his wife in her work of honoring the elderly is a natural outcome of living in a vibrant community devoted to the ways of the Torah.
In Deuteronomy 7:13, the Children of Israel are told, "He will love you, bless you and multiply you…in the land that He swore to your fathers to give you." Dan and his wife have been blessed with six children and many grandchildren, still multiplying, with the help of God, and strive to be a blessing for others.
Neighbors recall how Dan was there for their family exactly twenty-four years ago. The new neighbors had not yet received their phone line. The wife, pregnant with twins, was already admitted into a Jerusalem hospital, trying to delay the birth. With no way to reach her husband to let him know the babies had decided to come early, she called Dan before sunrise, who not only delivered the message, but drove his neighbor on eagle's wings through the Arab city of Ramallah arriving at the Jerusalem hospital in record time. The family was united for the happy event of the twins' birth.
The Heart of Israel supports family businesses like Herby's Bakeshop that not only provide wonderful products in the land of the Bible, but epitomize the combination of idealistic settlers of the Holy Land and loving neighbors.
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Secret of Life according to my friend, Rabbi Pliskin
(1) Keep breathing. The longer you breathe, the longer you live.
(2) Attitude. Likely, there are those who read the piece and said, "That's easy for you to say! If you've been through what I've been through, you wouldn't have written that." Therefore, this week I am sharing with you the "how" of keeping a positive attitude from a little booklet Aish produced called "The Secret of Happiness."
Ask anyone, "What would you rather be: happy or rich?" Almost everyone will answer "I'd rather be happy." However, most people work at being rich far more than they work at being happy.
Before I share with you the secret of happiness, we have to get rid of two misconceptions.
1. It is possible to know how to be happy, to be convinced that these tools will work, and not do a thing about it. This is because learning any new skill requires effort and some discomfort. There's no magic potion. So, don't mistakenly assume that just because you can't put something into action, this means that you don't believe it. You can think it'll work... and still be lazy.
2. People often think that the secret of happiness must be some hidden Kabbalistic mystery or exotic activity. The truth is that it's simple and easy to understand. It's something every person knows, but just doesn't focus that he knows it.
Imagine standing on the 70th floor of the Empire State building. Suddenly, a man opens a window and says, "I'm going to jump!" You call out, "Stop! Don't do it!" And he replies, "If you try to stop me, I'll take you with me!"
The guy is 6'5" and weighs 260 pounds, so you say, "OK ... but any last messages? Perhaps there's someone I should notify?" He says, "You seem like an intelligent, friendly person. I'll give you 15 minutes to try to dissuade me, but first let me tell you my troubles so you'll understand why I want to jump."
For hours you listen to him tell you about the most horrific misfortunes and tragedies. You've never heard stories like this. By the end, you're crying your eyes out. Finally, he turns to you and says, "I'm miserable. Why should I go on living?"
What can you possibly say? Suddenly, you get a flash of inspiration! "Sir, if on top of all your troubles you also happened to be blind, would you be more or less miserable?" He replies, "Certainly, more miserable!" You then continue, "So you would then definitely jump?" "Of course!" he replies.
"Now, imagine that you're leaning out the window about to jump and suddenly there's a miracle. You can see! You see people, the sun, clouds, birds flying in the sky! Would you jump ... or would you wait a week to look around?"
The man answers, "I suppose I'd stick around for a week." "What about all of your troubles and miseries?" you ask. "So, what? Now I can see!"
If a person really appreciates that he can see then all of his miseries are nothing. On the other hand, if you take everything you have for granted, nothing you'll ever receive in life will bring you lasting happiness. The secret of happiness is to really appreciate what you have.
COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS
Here's how it works. Everyone has a cousin or an aunt who loves to complain. Let's call her Aunt Sophie. The next time you visit your Aunt Sophie and she wants to tell you for 2 hours about her miseries, say to her very respectfully, "Auntie, I came to suffer with you. But, before we suffer, please tell me about five pleasures you had today."
"Pleasures? What pleasures?" Aunt Sophie responds. "Auntie, I'm going to leave right now if you don't share with me some of today's pleasures!" She's stuck. "Tell me, did you have a cup of coffee this morning?" "Yes, I had a coffee" says Aunt Sophie. Make her focus on the pleasure. "Did you close your eyes and take in the aroma? Was the coffee warm and sweet? Did it give you energy?" Relive the pleasure with her. She'll have to do it because she wants to satisfy your request so that she can start to complain.
"Okay. It was sweet and nice," she says. "Now can I complain?" "Not yet, Aunt Sophie. Tell me four more pleasures." "I didn't have any more," says she! "Did you wash your face? Did you have a warm shower? Did that feel good? Were you out in the sun today?" Relive it for her. After walking her through five pleasures, her complaints will be far less bitter.
Appreciating the pleasures we have is simple and effective. Every evening when you sit down with your family or a friend, discuss five pleasures each of you experienced that day. Incorporate this into your daily ritual - especially if you have children. Eventually, those around you will be focused throughout the day on what pleasures they had so that they can share them with you.
Quotes from my sister
Once you have tasted flight, you will forever walk the earth with your eyes turned skyward, for there you have been, and there you will always long to return. Leonardo da Vinci Renaissance polymath
The moment you doubt whether you can fly, you cease for ever to be able to do it. M. Barrie, Peter Pan novelist and playwright
If you were born without wings, do nothing to prevent them from growing. Coco Chanel fashion designer
Fly without wings; Dream with open eyes; See in darkness. Dejan Stojanovic Poet, writer, and businessman
When fears are grounded, dreams take flight. Anon Man must rise above the Earth – to the top of the atmosphere and beyond – for only thus will he fully understand the world in which he lives. Socrates philosopher
There is no sport equal to that which aviators enjoy while being carried through the air on great white wings. Wilbur Wright, aviation pioneer
Until you spread your wings you have no idea how far you'll fly. Anon
You haven't seen a tree until you've seen its shadow from the sky. Amelia Earhart aviation pioneer and author
Gliders, sailplanes, they are wonderful flying machines. It's the closest you can come to being a bird. Neil Armstrong astronaut; first person to walk on the moon
Leftist Jew Hatred Has Come to America
ADL hides the Left's Jew hatred. To promote their own Lefty agenda, they continue to push the "alt Right" Jew hatred narrative as a way to conceal reality. Unfortunately Algemiener seems to turn into an ADL mouthpiece. Read article & comments below article:
"Daniel Greenfieldputs it succinctly: "There is no future for Jews on the left except as collaborators in anti-Semitism"
The ascendancy of the hard Left, which is Barack Obama's lasting legacy, is transforming life in America for Jews. The comfort, safety, and equality of American Jews are not acceptable to leftists. According to the doctrine of intersectionality, minority groups are united in grievances against Western Civilization and whiteness. The Left began with blacklisting and boycotting conservatives. Now American Jews are in the crosshairs, no matter how liberal their politics.
The response from the mainstream Democratic Party has been to jump on the bandwagon. Will American Jews jump off? Not as long as they continue to live in Democrat communities and work in the professions on the two coasts and college towns, where becoming Republican means losing your friends, being shunned at synagogue, and stunting your career—or if you are starting out in life, being shut out of careers in academia, the arts, mainstream journalism, and Silicon Valley. For most Jews, the social and career cost of changing party affiliation is a such a tall cliff, it feels suicidal, that is, the loss of their entire identity. People don't make changes like that easily.
Why do American leftists have such a problem with Jews? The short explanation is the identity politics that are President Obama's toxic legacy to the country, by which he and his thousands of trained activists have redefined the Democrat Party. You've got to fit into a favored grievance group, and no matter how left-wing they are, Jews are white. Equally bad, their ethnic group as a whole is wildly successful. Jewish success strips the grievance crowd of their main argument.
Jews have suffered huge discrimination in America. They arrived penniless and made it in one or two generations, embracing America with love despite the discrimination they faced everywhere. Jews do not do grievance and envy and self-destructive addictions, it is just not in their Biblical culture. Shut out of corporate America, elite colleges, medical schools, law offices and banks, they created their own. As small and large independent businessmen, Jews made it in America. Jews are living proof that nothing can stand in your way in America if you have good values like education and a strong family. The identity politics, blame-America crowd can't stand the Jewish-American success story.
American Jews count their blessings for our wonderful country where we all have the God given rights to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness, in recognition that God created all men of equal worth in His eyes. America is the only country on earth, outside of Israel, where Jews have been treated fairly and allowed to flourish. The left hates America. Sohrab Ahmari points out "The intersectional left is committed to the opposite idea–that everywhere in the West, there are hidden 'structures of oppression' that trap minorities along the lines of race, gender and sexuality." Jews have no place in this ideology. So they are cast out.
On campuses, liberal Jewish students are kicked out of social justice groups, pro-choice rallies, anti-rape demonstrations, Black Lives Matter events, and racial justice events. A professor at University of California lists more than 600 anti-Semitic incidents on American campuses in 2018. The left-wing and Muslim organizers, often members of Marxist- or Muslim Brotherhood-funded groups, state their goal is to make it uncomfortable to be openly Jewish on campus.
Here is an almost comical sign of the new leftist anti-Semitism, from the Times of Israel, Jewish cafe owner in San Francisco hounded over his "Zionist ideals." The café owner in question, Manny Yekutiel, is a progressive himself. He has checked off every politically correct box. He is an immigrant; his family originally comes from Afghanistan. He is gay, interned in the Obama White House and was the fundraising director for Clinton in Silicon Valley. His cafe has a food prep staff of bilingual, homeless, formerly incarcerated and low-income community members. (You couldn't make it up.) Community groups can use his café's big public meeting room for free. His café hosted Nancy Pelosi, San Francisco's mayor, and Black Lives Matter.
Now a black Marxist group is trying to put him out of business. Boycotting Yekutiel's business is clearly not about politics. It is about hating whites, and Jews.
The Lucy Parsons Project, a self-described "radical black queer direct action group fighting anti-blackness in the Bay Area," is picketing his café, declaring, "We will not tolerate gentrifiers and Zionists attempts at invading and destroying our community."
Group namesake Lucy Parsons was an American black-Hispanic-Native American socialist and anarcho-Communist labor organizer in 19th-century Chicago. (Again, you couldn't make it up.) One of the ringleaders of the Parsons boycott, is a "radical black queer," whose Twitter page declares solidarity with #JailKillerCops and features a quote from Lenin, adorned with hammer and sickle.
I couldn't find any public statement from Pelosi coming to Yekutiel's defense.
It used to be easy to dismiss each unsavory anti-Semitic incident from the Left as aberrant and irrelevant to American politics—no more. Democrats are mainstreaming anti-Semitic candidates who support the economic isolation and destruction of Israel through a boycott. The 2018 midterms made history with two anti-Semitic Democratic congresswomen, thanks to a Muslim majority in congressional districts in Minnesota and Michigan. They join seven unapologetic Farrakhan supporting congressmen in the Black Caucus. Representative Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez (D-N.Y.), after pressure from the Left, stated she supports the end of Israel as a Jewish state (although to be fair, it doesn't seem as if she understands that's what "one state solution" means). The Democrat candidate for governor of Florida, Andrew Gillum, another leftist, is also an anti-Israel and a BDS supporter.
These openly left-wing candidates follow the trailblazing President Obama.
Obama legitimized the loathsome Al Sharpton, who was invited to his White House over a hundred times. Sharpton will make history for inciting two pogroms against Jews in New York, which led to the deaths by riot and arson of twelve innocents, mostly black shoppers and employees in a Jewish owned store.
I will never forget the bizarre utterances of President Obama in 2015 when jihadis in Paris shot up a Jewish-owned theatre, killing 130 people, targeted the Prime Minister of France at a soccer game, but made a detour to shoot up one Jewish delicatessen, where they could kill Jews shopping for the sabbath. President Obama's statement: "you randomly shot a bunch of folks in a deli."
What kind of person talks like that? "You randomly shot a bunch of folks in a deli." Obama didn't want to say the victims were Jews or that the killers were Muslims or terrorists. Answer: The kind of man who talked like that is the same man who went to Reverend Jeremiah Wright's anti-Semitic, racist church for 20 years and adopted the hate-filled pastor as his spiritual mentor. Obama has always been given a free pass on his obvious embrace of anti-semites.
President Obama, while in office, was required to issue statements on ethnic holidays. These are a feel-good ritual like kissing babies. The President traditionally says happy holiday and honors the ethnic or religious group's contribution to America. Obama's Ramadan message was a weird outpouring of praise of "Islam's role in advancing justice, progress, tolerance, and the dignity of all human beings. … Islam has always been part of America and that American Muslims have made extraordinary contributions to our country." This is an accurate list of what Islam is not.
These precise virtues are strikingly true of American Jews, however, for whom Obama had not one good thing to say on the Jewish holidays. Crickets. I have spoken to a non-Jewish friend who attended an Obama Hanukkah party, and she told me the atmosphere in person was chilly indeed, with Michelle looking as if she'd swallowed a bug, and neither one of them schmoozing with the guests.
In his first Rosh Hashanah Presidential statement, Obama could barely say the word Jew, didn't mention Judaism, or choke out a single compliment. For Jewish American Heritage Month, he called for a Palestinian state. For Rosh Hashanah, Jews were lectured to help the needy, embrace diversity and choose the Two State Solution. Obama cut the Hanukkah guest list in half, but had room to add an anti-Israeli group. At the White House party, that group's board member was honored to light the candles, which she did with the words, "Inshallah ("If Allah wills," in Arabic), I stand here to light these lights to say no to the darkness of Islamophobia and Homophobia and Transphobia." Happy Hanukkah!
Jews, whatever their politics, have been a favorite Marxist scapegoat for a century. Same old, come to America.
It is an incredible propaganda coup for the Democrats to vilify President Trump as a Nazi and white supremacist in the minds of liberal Jews. President Trump is the best president for Jews America has ever had—he has a heart for Jews, supports Israel and has zero tolerance for anti-semitism. His protective attitude towards all Americans is extended wholeheartedly to American Jews. His will to fight America's enemies such as ISIS and Iran, makes him a strong ally of Israel.
Obama's personal distaste for Israel, pro-Iran agenda, and public attacks on Jewish community leaders who opposed him on Iran, as well as siccing the FBI on them, led to an unprecedented drop in Jewish support in Obama's second term to 64 percent. Hillary Clinton's support did not return to normal levels of Democrat loyalty, although it was still a hefty 71 percent. Gore won 79 percent of the Jewish vote.
A new factor is that secular Jews in America are intermarrying and, having only one or no children, are moving quickly towards population collapse, while the religiously observant Orthodox Jews are flourishing. Half of the Orthodox are enthusiastic Trump supporters.
Trump got far more Jewish votes Jewish votes than most Republican candidates in the last 30 years. George W. Bush won only 19 percent in 2000 and 24 percent in 2004, after 9/11; Dole, 16 percent; Bush Sr. 11 percent in 1992. The only exception was Romney's 30 percent, from Jews who couldn't ignore Obama's hostility towards them and Israel.
A Jewish friend and staunch MAGA supporter, related the following incident after the midterms. Her visiting Gen X daughter picked a fight over abortion, stormed from the table, screaming, "how can you be so conservative?" and shut herself up in the guest room. My friend turned to her 17-year-old granddaughter, usually only interested in sports and clothes. The granddaughter chirped, "These liberals are crazy."
The kid says she wants to apply to colleges in the South, where the students are patriotic and interested in having fun, not politics. Why does she want out of the liberal fold? Twitter. On the anniversary of 9/11 last year, the Muslim kids in her public school posted celebratory tweets. Someone drew a swastika on a blackboard. The only thing that was done is the principal privately offered sympathy. My friend's granddaughter is sick of her liberal schoolmates bad mouthing America. She thinks they are idiots to be against having a military.
As a kid, she is not insulated from progressive ugliness. She is experiencing it every day, and it is a total turnoff.
The normalization of antisemitism by the Democrat party will eventually force more American Jews out of their comfort zone. As Trump's positive policies continue to prove themselves, we can all devoutly hope that reality will pierce the overwhelming din of #TheResistance.
Daniel Greenfield puts it succinctly: "There is no future for Jews on the left except as collaborators in anti-Semitism."
Jews who stay Democrat will be forced to jettison their Jewish identity.
They will also be forced to jettison their American identity. Equality and the American dream will have to give way to a race-based spoils system in which whites and successful people are second class citizens. The older generations of liberal Jews may be too stuck to change, but the younger generation is unlikely to keep eating the sickening stew of class warfare, racism and anti-Semitism that Democrats are dishing out.
ADL produced a new fake news: 1. The identification of being "Right wing extremist" of the murderers is false. Each case must be researched for motivation, background, mental status etc. 2. The massacre in Pittsburgh where 11 were murdered is an exception that does not suggest a trend. Without it would have been 37 vs, 39 statistically identical. Not all mass murders in US were committed by "Right wing extremist". As with the study on antisemitism these accusation feed the radical Left Democrats in their plight to control America. A new fund raising ploy?
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Murders by US Right-Wing Extremists in 2018 at Highest Peak in Over Two Decades, New ADL Report Reveals