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Individual tourists to be allowed into Israel starting July 1

Tourism Minister Orit Farkash-Hacohen made the announcement, but a Health Ministry official said the statement was premature.

By ROSSELLA TERCATIN

Vaccinated individual tourists are going to be allowed in Israel starting from July 1, Tourism Minister Orit Farkash-Hacohen announced on Thursday night. However, a Health Ministry official told The Jerusalem Post that the statement was somewhat premature and connected to the imminent change of government."I'm happy that the hard work of the Tourism Ministry staff, along with the Health Ministry, Foreign Affairs, and the Interior Ministry, led the interior minister to declare that the requirements for vaccinated tourists will be relaxed and there will be an expansion of the entry of individual tourists starting July 1," Farkash-Hacohen tweeted. "The time has come for Israel to open up to tourism and to take advantage of its status as a vaccinated country for the benefit of its economy.

President Reuven Rivlin is seen visiting the Dead Sea after tourists were allowed to return. (Credit: HAIM ZACH/GPO)A spokesperson for the minister told the Post that the decision will not require any further approval by the government and there won't be any limit on the number of visitors allowed in. Only vaccinated travelers – and not those who have recovered – will be allowed in. They will have to present their vaccination certificate before boarding the plane, as well as the results of their PCR test.The questions about which vaccines are going to be accepted accept and whether tourists are going to need to undergo a serological test to prove the presence of antibodies in their blood to avoid quarantine – as it is now required to anyone who was vaccinated abroad – are still under discussion, the spokesperson added. However, a Health Ministry official said that while it is true that this is the direction that relevant officials are working towards, Farkash-Hacohen's announcement was premature, possibly to rush it before the new government is sworn in.

The Three Musketeers at the Kotel

Should We Leave America? An Interview with Activist Shifra Hoffman (who just pased) By Molly Resnick

This article was originally published on June 26, 2019.

Last month, 51 years ago, Rabbi Meir Kahane founded the Jewish Defense League (JDL). Its purpose was to fight for Jewish causes with as much gusto and pride as radical blacks and other groups were fighting for their causes.

Shifra Hoffman, founder of Shuva and Victims of Arab Terror, worked alongside Rabbi Kahane for many years. In a recent interview with The Jewish Press, she reflected on some of her JDL activities and JDL ideology.

The Jewish Press: How did you get involved in the JDL?

Hoffman: I had written a poem, "Ode to Rabbi Meir" [in the early 1970s], and decided to ask Rabbi Kahane to autograph it. I had never met him and hadn't seen any pictures of him, so I thought of him as an old, wise man with a long beard.

When I arrived at the JDL's offices, the secretary said Rabbi Kahane was busy, so I decided to wait. Then the door opened and a man walked out. He must have been about 35 years old, so I ran up to him and said, "Have you finished speaking to Rabbi Kahane? I need to speak to him after you're done."

He said, "I'm Rabbi Kahane."

My jaw dropped, and all I could do was put the paper in his hand and run away. But he was a speed reader and said, "You wrote this?" I said, "Yes." He said, "I have to go back to Israel to run for Knesset, but I need good people here [in the States]." So that was the beginning of my association with Rabbi Kahane, which I value more than I can express.

What did you do for the JDL?

Rabbi Kahane was always in prison [for JDL-related activities], so he sent me to speak on his behalf throughout the United States. I also had a radio show that was very popular called "Jewish News and Views."

At one point, Rabbi Kahane was arrested because he had sent a letter to JDL supporters asking us to make things hard for Leonid Brezhnev [the Soviet premier] during his visit to the United States [so that he would agree to let Jews leave the Soviet Union].

The letter was intercepted by the Israeli government, which handed it over to the Attorney General in America. Rabbi Kahane faced five years in prison for sending that letter. In court, the judge said, "If you stop your activities against Soviet Jews, maybe we can reduce your sentence." Rabbi Kahane replied before a packed courtroom:

"Your honor, I don't want to go to jail. But right now, I face you. You are a judge of flesh and blood. One day, we will all face the Judge of all Judges and he will ask me, 'Meir Kahane, what did you do when three million of your brothers were behind the Iron Curtain? So you're going to have to do what you have to do, and I will continue doing what I have to do.

People in the crowd broke down crying when he said that. The judge sentenced him to one year in a minimum-security prison.

You continued working for him after that?

I never took one shekel for my work. But yes, I was the liaison for some of his books, and when he ran for the Knesset, I organized many of the fundraisers.

They banned him in 1988. He would have had 13 seats in the Knesset. But he never showed defeat and went on with his program.

You founded Shuva to encourage Jews to move to Israel, a cause that Rabbi Kahane advanced as well. Both he and you argued that we should move to Israel because we face another potential Holocaust in America. Is that really true?

When the Nazis marched in Skokie in 1977, we organized a protest, and someone in the media asked me, "Don't you think, Mrs. Hoffman, that you're paranoid? There are only a few Nazis in America, after all." I replied, "Paranoid Jews live longer." Rabbi Kahane loved using that line.

Why do you think there will be another Holocaust?

I'm surprised you're asking this question. A Holocaust doesn't just happen one, two, three. A Holocaust doesn't begin with Auschwitz. It ends there!

Today you see anti-Semitism everywhere. As the economy gets worse, Nazism grows, and I'm amazed that people don't understand that. After what happened in Pittsburgh, I thought Jews would pack their suitcases and come home, but they delude themselves.

So no, it's not here yet, but the seeds are here, and Jews need to get out.

Rabbi Kahane predicted a Holocaust in America in the 1970s, which never came about. Why are you so convinced one will happen now?

If you open up a computer, you'll see that anti-Semitism in America is on the rise. It's there in print. It's all documented. Jews are being attacked and murdered, swastikas are being painted on synagogues, and Jews are afraid on college campuses.

In Crown Heights alone there have been dozens of attacks over the last few months. They attack chassidim because they are visible. I say: If you want to remain, don't complain! We have a home and we should be there.

Your solution is to move to Israel, but Israel is practically the only country in the world where Jews are regularly killed for being Jewish.

First of all, even if there were no anti-Semitism, a Jew has the privilege today after 2,000 years – not only the obligation – to come home to Israel. So have a little pride. Know that G-d Almighty answered our prayers.

But secondly, Israel doesn't have to be dangerous. We have a very weak government that does not do what has to be done against Arab murderers. Have you ever heard of a country that releases murderers? They release them to prisons like a hotel with all kinds of amenities and then they get a certificate to teach when they come out from prison. It's insane!

It says in the Torah that when G-d wants to punish us, he inflicts us with madness and blindness. That's what's happened here. The land of Israel was only given to the Jews. Other people have the right to be here as a gerei toshav – as it says in the Torah – but not to chase us out of our own country and murder us.

Why would you tell me to come to a country that has a government that won't protect me as a Jew?

I came here because G-d Almighty said we should be here, and I believe that if G-d sees us here, He will change the situation for us.

It says so very clearly [in the Torah]. G-d says: I told my children what they're supposed to do; they didn't listen, so I let them go their own way. That's what happened in the past generation. Jews had the opportunity to go home to Israel but didn't.

This is our home. Whom did Hashem give it to – the Arabs? The point is: Either we believe that G-d gave us this land and we should be here or we don't believe it. Rabbi Kahane said we cannot have geulah and the galut. They are mutually exclusive.

Amit Segal in first interview with Former Israeli ambassador in Washington Ron Dermer

Must One Honor Abusive Parents?

By Yehuda Shurpin

When discussing this sensitive and often painful topic, we need to bear in mind that every situation is different. There are many kinds and levels of abuse, and different people can cope with and tolerate different situations and relationships. Nevertheless, we will try to give some perspective and general halachic guidelines.

General Note to Parents

The Torah's directive for children to honor parents does not provide the parent with a license to do as he or she pleases. It goes without saying that abusing children (including your own), be it mentally, physically, verbally or emotionally, is prohibited. Furthermore, a parent must endeavor not to put their children in a situation that would cause them to show their parents disrespect. To quote Maimonides:

Even though [children] are commanded [to be exceedingly devoted and dutiful to their parents], parents should not place too burdensome a yoke upon them or be too exacting with them in matters pertaining to their honor for fear that they may cause them to sin [by dishonoring them]. They should forgive their children and close their eyes, for parents have the discretion to forgo the honor due to them. Parents who strike their grown child are excommunicated because they violate the biblical prohibition, "You shall not place a stumbling block before the blind."1^,2

Our focus here, however, is on the obligations of the children.

Undeserving Parents

One of the main reasons for this mitzvah is to appreciate the fact that our parents are the source of our very existence in this world. So although honoring one's father and mother is essentially an obligation between people, it is also a mitzvah between man and G‑d, since "there are three partners in [the creation of] a person: G‑d, the father and the mother.3" By doing this mitzvah a person will come to the realizationthat if he needs to respect his father and mother, who created his physical body, how much more so should he honor his Father in Heaven, who granted him with the superior component, his eternal soul!4

Thus, this mitzvah is not necessarily dependent on how well the parents treated the child, and at times would apply even if the child was abandoned.5

Going to Extremes

The Torah recognizes that fulfilling the mitzvah of honoring one's parents, which is one of the Ten Commandments, is one of the more difficult mitzvahs. Commentators explain that it is for this very reason that it is one of only two mitzvahs 6 for which the Torah assures us long life as a reward.7

There are a number of anecdotes in the Talmud to illustrate how far one needs to go in honoring and respecting one's parents:

The sages asked Rabbi Eliezer: To what extent must one exert himself to fulfill the mitzvah of honoring one's father and mother? Rabbi Eliezer said to them: Go and see what a certain gentile did for his father in Ashkelon, and his name is Dama ben Netina. Once, the sages sought to purchase precious stones from him for the ephod [breastplate] of the High Priest for 600,000 gold dinars profit, but the keys to the chest holding the jewels were placed under his father's head, and he would not disturb him. The next year the Holy One, Blessed be He, gave Dama ben Netina his reward, as a red heifer was born in his herd, and the Jews needed it. When the sages of Israel came to him, he said to them: "I know, concerning you, that if I were to ask for all the money in the world you would give it to me. But I ask only that money that I lost due to the honor of Father . . ."

Once Dama ben Netina was wearing a fine cloak [sirkon] of gold, and was sitting among the nobles of Rome. And his mother came to him and tore his garment from him and smacked him on the head and spat in his face, and yet he did not embarrass her.

The Talmud also relates this story of the great sage Rabbi Tarfon:

Rabbi Tarfon had a certain manner of treating his mother, that whenever she wished to ascend into her bed he would bend over and help her to ascend, and whenever she wished to descend from the bed, she would descend onto him. He came and praised himself in the study hall for performing the mitzvah of honoring one's father and mother so thoroughly. They said to him: "You still have not reached even half of the honor due to her. Has it ever happened that she threw a purse into the sea in front of you, and you did not embarrass her?"

. . [Rabbi Tarfon's] mother once walked in her garden and her sandal split so that she would have to walk home barefoot. Thereupon Rabbi Tarfon kept stretching his hands under her feet and she walked over them all the way. One day he was ill and his colleagues came to visit him. His mother then said to them: "Pray for my son Rabbi Tarfon, for he honors me more than is my due." "What has he done to you?" they asked. She told them what happened. They replied: "If he had done to you thousands times more, he would not have done half of the honor enjoined in the Torah!"8

When It Is Painful to Be Together

On the other hand, we also find anecdotes that illustrate how, due to the circumstances, one can at times avoid having to honor one's parents.

Rav Asi had an elderly mother. She said to him: "I want jewelry," and he made jewelry for her. She said to him: "I want a man whom I can marry," and he said to her: "I will seek one for you." She said to him: "I want a husband who is as handsome as you." At this point, he realized that she was senile, and that he would be unable to fulfill all her requests. Therefore, he left her and went to the Land of Israel . . .9

From this incident, Maimonides 10 derives that if it becomes too difficult to care for one's parents due to their mental state, a child may leave them (after first arranging for someone else to care for them in a fitting manner).

Similarly, Rabbi Yehudah Hachassid (1150–1217) writes that if there is a quarrel between parent and child that is causing a great deal of pain to either one of them, it is better that they separate, since they cannot stand being together.11

So where on the spectrum does your relationship with your parents fall? Is your situation like Rabbi Tarfon's, or is it closer to Rav Asi's?

The Limits

It's important to know some of the parameters of the obligation to honor one's parents, which may help prevent a tense situation from spiralling out of control.

In general, the mitzvah of honoring one's parents includes (but is not limited to) feeding, dressing, and helping them walk.12 And the companion mitzvah of revering one's parents includes not sitting or standing in their designated place and not contradicting their words in a disrespectful manner.13

It goes without saying that in a situation where there is even a possibility of real danger due to abuse, we follow the rule that chayecha kodmin, your first obligation is to your own life.14 Additionally, one isn't obligated to honor his parents if doing so would result in one's suffering physical or emotional damage.15

But what about other situations?

Here are just a few pertinent guidelines to help give perspective:

May parents order their child around? According to most opinions,16 the mitzvah to honor one's parents is limited to things that directly service or benefit the parents themselves.17 So if Mom wants pizza, you should make some or buy it for her, but if she orders you to make dinner for her mahjong friends, you can demur.

Must one obey a parent who orders the child to transgress Torah? The mitzvahs of the Torah come from G‑d, whom our parents are obligated to obey just as we are. Thus, if one's parents ask him to do something that violates a commandment (even if it is only rabbinically forbidden), the obligation to honor the parent is superseded and the child should not comply.18

Must honor extend to losing money? In general, as long as the parents can afford it, the cost of honoring one's parents, which includes feeding, clothing and caring for them, are covered by and can be taken from the parents' resources. However, if the parents can't afford to cover their living expenses but their child can afford it, the child is obligated to support his parents.19 Similarly, when necessary, the child is obligated to lose work time to actively care for his parents, even if the parents can afford to pay for a caregiver.20

When parents pit their children against the other parent. If there is strife between the parents, and the father (for example) tells the child not to listen to the mother in order to belittle her or cause her pain, the son should not listen to the father since the father does not have a right to pain the mother (or anyone else for that matter) and doing so is a violation of the Torah.21

Perpetuating strife. If a parent tells the child not to talk to or forgive someone, but the child wishes to make peace, he shouldn't listen to the parent, since hating your fellowman is a violation of a commandment.22

What if a controlling parent objects to a child's choice of life-partner? As long as the potential spouse is upstanding and befitting the child (with no other halachic issues), the child need not listen to the parents if they protest the match.23

These are just some of the general guidelines for this mitzvah. As we mentioned above, this is a very sensitive topic and every situation is different, both in terms of the form of abuse as well as what stage the child is at and what he can tolerate. One would need to discuss his specific situation with a competent rabbi and, if necessary, a mental health professional.

At the same time, it should be kept in mind that honoring one's parents is one of the greatest mitzvahs. Our sages tell us that one who performs this (at times) difficult mitzvah properly merits long life, is rewarded both in this world and the next, and hastens the coming of the Moshiach and the ultimate Redemption.24

Footnotes

Leviticus 19:14.

Mishneh Torah, Hilchot Mamrim 6:8-9.

Talmud, Kiddushin 30a.

See Sefer Hachinuch, mitzvah 33; Kli Yakar, Exodus 20:22.

See Meshech Chochmah, Deuteronomy 5:16.

The other is shiluach haken, the mitzvah to send away the mother bird before taking her eggs or young; see Shiluach Haken - Understanding the Enigmatic Mitzvah to Send Away the Mother Bird.

Rabbi Saadia Gaon on Exodus 20:22. He explains that the reason for this is that often the parents can become a burden to the children, causing it to be difficult to honor them. Therefore, the Torah promises long life for keeping this mitzvah. One who views his parents' longevity as an imposition on his life should realize that it is his own lifespan that he is pained about and finding burdensome.

See here for a fascinating commentary on this conversation.

Talmud, Kiddushin 31b; it is from here that Maimonides (cited in fn. 2) infers that at times the child may need to absent themselves and leave the parent in someone else's care.

10.

Mishneh Torah, Hilchot Mamrim 6:10.

11.

Sefer Chassidim 343.

12.

Shulchan Aruch Yoreh De'ah 240:4.

13.

Ibid., 240:2.

14.

Talmud, Bava Metzia 62a.

15.

See Maharik, shoresh 166.

16.

See, however, Sefer HaMakneh, Kiddushin 31b.

17.

See Biur HaGra on Yoreh De'ah 240:36.

18.

Shulchan Aruch, Yoreh De'ah 240:15.

19.

Ibid., 240:5.

20.

Ibid. If this will result in the child not having enough to eat that day, he is not obligated to lose work time for honoring his parents.

21.

Moshav Zekenim Baalei Tosafot, Vayikra 19; Mateh Efraim Kaddish, Elef L'mateh 4; see also Poskim Vetshuvot, Yoreh De'ah 240:41.

22.

Shulchan Aruch,Yoreh Deah 240:16.

23.

Rama, Shulchan Aruch, Yoreh De'ah 240:25; Maharik, shoresh 166.

24.

See Yaarot Devash 2:2; Radak, Judges 6:11; Poskim Vetshu

Why Don't You Support Israel?

Israel is one of the most free and most prosperous countries in the world. Not only is Israel a booming economy and a wellspring of innovation, it is the only democracy in the Middle East. So why is it so controversial to support the Jewish state? Stephen Harper, the 22nd Prime Minister of Canada, lays out several fundamental truths about America's most critical ally.