If you've wronged another person, and your regret is sincere, he will forgive you.
Some people, however, when asking forgiveness are just being deceitful. Such an apology is unlikely to be accepted.
Today, think of someone you have wronged and have not asked for forgiveness. Be resolved to sincerely ask him for forgiveness
There are times when some one has such an idea in their head that no matter what you say, they will not accept it. All you can do is your best and with prayer one can hope that the person sees that you love them.
I had such an experience in the last few days, brought on my own carelessness. I have suffered great pain thinking my friends would think I would hurt them in any way. Jews however realize that suffering is part of the cure for what ails us.
Love Yehuda Lave
Matot—The Extra Title of Caleb Ben Yefuna
It is written in Num. 32:12
בלתי כלב בן יפנה הקנזי...
"Except for Caleb son of Yefuna the Kenizzite." Why does the Torah give this extra title to Caleb and why does the Torah do it at this place? The answer is connected to the request of the tribe of Reuben and the tribe of Gad. Here in this place in the Torah they requested that their inheritance of the land be the land that is on the other side of the Jordan. It is in Moshe's rebuke to them that he adds the title to Caleb of the Kenizzite.
To understand this, we must look back to the verse in Gen. 15:18-19 where it is written,
לזרעך נתתי את הארץ הזאת מנהר מצרים עד הנהר הגדל נהר פרת: את הקיני ואת הקנזי ואת הקדמני:
" To your seed I have given this land, from the river of Egypt to the great river, the Euphrates River. (The land also of) the Kennite, the Kenizzite, and the Kadmonite." It is from this verse that we see that G-d told to Avrahom that his children will inherit three more lands than the territory that makes up the land of Israel proper. These three are on the other side of the Jordan and will be given to the children of Israel after the final redemption as our sages have commented about. Concerning this it is written in Deut. 19:8 - ואם ירחיב י-ה-ו-ה א-ל-ה-יך את גבלך כאשר נשבע לאבתיך ונתן לך את כל הארץ אשר דבר לתת לאבתיך
" When G-d your L-rd will broaden your boundry, as He swore to your forefather (Avrahom), and He will give you the entire Land that He spoke to your Forefather to give."
Come now and understand! This is the reason that the tribes of Reuben and Gad wanted to take their inheritance on the other side of the Jordan. They wanted to fulfill this oath now through them, and not wait until the end of days. The tribe of Reuben felt qualified for this mission because concerning them, they were blessed by Jacob saying, Gen. 49:3- ראובן בכרי אתה כחי וראשית אוני יתר שאת ויתר עז:
"Reuben, you are my firstborn, my strength and my initial vigor, foremost in rank and foremost in power." The tribe of Reuben felt that with such a blessing, they would be the vanguard to be the first to inherit their land on the other side of the Jordan and be the ones to spread the holiness of G-d throughout the whole world. What they did not consider was the second part of the blessing, פחז כמים, אל תותר..
" Unstable like water (impetuosity) - you cannot be foremost,….." Had they realized this, they would have understood they they should have not taken their inheritance on the other side of the Jordan because they were not destined to fulfill this oath of G-d. This is also the same with the tribe of Gad who were given the blessing, Gen. 49:19- גד גדוד יגודנו והוא יגד עקב:
"Gad, a troop shall troop upon him; but he shall troop upon their heel (at the last)." Gad knowing that they are assured of victory in the end, felt that they are the perfect vessel to withstand the tempest of the ungodliness of the nations and not be pulled under by the forces of uncleanness, but rather be able to spread the holiness of G-d throughout the world. What they failed to understand was what Caleb the son of Yefuna lived and experienced, and was tried and tested with, and passed with 'flying colors'.
In order for a person to be able to spread the holiness of G-d, the person must himself be well grounded and attached fully to the source of holiness. There can be no skipping of any steps in the rungs of the latter, or you will fall! A person has to be rooted first to the land of all blessing, the land of Israel proper. If there are obstacles that prevent a person from living in the land beyond ones ability, the person must pray daily that the obstacles be removed and yearn with all their heart to be able to live in the land of Israel. The next step is to be a fitting vessel of holiness that permeates one's being, being devout in the service of G-d. Only with these two prerequisites met, can one now go and spread the holiness past the natural boarders of his self and even spread it to the other nations and even to the rest of the world. The only person at that time that passed this test was Caleb the son of Yefuna, now with the added title of the Kinizzite– to show that he was the only fitting person to inherit the other side of the Jordan also, because he was with G-d completely in His service and desire and was rooted already with his inheritance in the land of Israel proper.