In the book of Proverbs (27:19), we find an amazing formula for peace. "As in water, face is to face, so too is the heart of one person to another."
When you look at your reflection in a pond or in a mirror, you will see the exact same expression that is on your face. If you frown and scowl, you will see a frown and scowl staring right back at you. And if you smile and wave, you will see a smile and a wave. This is a natural law of physics. To frown and expect to see a smile on the image of your face in a mirror isn't a wise expectation.
King Solomon teaches us that this natural law has a counterpoint in the laws of human nature. The inner feelings you experience towards someone will be reflected back to you from the heart of that person.
See the good in other people. See them as being souls who have high aspirations even if at present they are not yet using all of their potential. See people as they will be when they are at their best. Judge people favorably. See the positive intentions of what they say and do even when it would be preferable if they chose better ways to accomplish those positive intentions.
The way to influence people to feel better towards you is to radiate unconditional love and respect towards them. When someone likes and respects you first, it's easier to reciprocate those feelings. It is a step towards greatness to be the one to create unconditional love and respect when you need to sustain this in the face of challenges. Be willing to take this step.
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22 January 2015
Chaim Yeshiva Convention, where he told the following story:
Rabbi Chinn knew an older Jewish man who said to him, "I hate Shabbos!"
The Rabbi thought perhaps he heard him wrong.
The man repeated, "I hate Shabbos!"
Rabbi Chinn was sad to hear this, but at the same time intrigued. He had heard people say that they doesn't appreciate Shabbos,
don't understand Shabbos, don't love Shabbos, don't care about Shabbos; but he never heard anyone go so far as to exclaim
emphatically and say that they hated Shabbos.
"Why do you hate Shabbos?" the Rabbi asked.
"When I was a boy I lived in a shtetel (small village) in Eastern Europe. My father worked hard all week to eke out a living and support
our family, and my mother labored round the clock cooking, cleaning, and mending to take care of us.
The crowning day of the week for our family was Shabbos. All week long, my parents yearned for Shabbos and prepared for it to
make it perfect in every way. My mother prepared a Shabbos table that was magnificent. The silver, the china, the linen and lace
were dazzling. No matter how tough their week, my parents glowed like a king and queen at the royal banquet."
At this point it was beginning to sound awe inspiring. Certainly difficult to see why any of this could cause one to hate Shabbos.
The man continued, "Even though my parents were far from wealthy, they had the finest Shabbos delicacies, including fish which was
very expensive. I however hated fish. I could barely tolerate the smell of fish much less the taste. Yet every Shabbos my father would
force me to eat fish at the Shabbos meal.
When I told him I didn't want to eat any fish, he would say, 'It is tradition to eat fish on Shabbos. It is written to eat fish on Shabbos. It's a
mitzvah to eat fish on Shabbos. My father ate fish on Shabbos, my grandfather ate fish on Shabbos; and you are going to eat fish on
Shabbos!' At this point I was afraid to argue so I just held my nose and ate the fish, detesting every last bite."
Ironically, the reason we eat fish on Shabbos because it is a tasty treat to most people, but if you doesn't like fish, don't eat it on
Shabbos. The father, not being learned knew only the general rule, not all the reasons and details.
"All week long I would dread Shabbos," continued the man, "Because I knew my father would force me to eat that fish. I hate
Indeed, Rabbi Chinn reflected, as a direct result of this father's ignorant unbending rigidity, Shabbos put a bad taste in this man's
mouth – literally. How important it is for us to understand the meanings behind our observances and practices. How important it is for
us feel joy for a mitzvah and create an atmosphere of love for mitzvos for our children.
Duracell decided that they wanted a Kosher seal on their batteries. So they hired an orthodox Rabbi at the Duracell factory. His job is
to stand on the production line and as the batteries go by, say, "I wish you long life"
I dig, you dig,
He dig, she dig,
We dig, they dig.
(It's not a great poem but it's very deep)